My girlfriend and I had been dating for 4 months when we found out she was 2 months pregnant. We had talked about all kinds of things like this relationship being serious...that we loved one another and could truly see spending our lives together.
When we found out about the pregnancy our s*x life stopped. We had a major disagreement about having a kid and she didn't care that I didn't feel we were ready as I am a med student and she's still trying to finish her bachelors at 25. I didn't think we were financially secure enough at all.
We've been intimate 2x since she found out she was pregnant...both within the first 3 months. She told me she had 0 interest in it around month 3 and didn't want me doing anything but kissing her. Since then nothing. I've been supportive of her throughout, i'd tell her she was beautiful, hold her hand, kiss her forehead every morning, make her breakfast and dinner most days, tell her i love her.
Well now the baby has been born and is nearly a month old she's been hinting at me not trying again but frankly I don't really see her as much more than a friend anymore. I told her early on through mid pregnancy that I was worried that because we had no physical intimacy that we could end up just being friends..she didn't really care that much and told me to be more accomodating to her which i have done. Considering its been a 9 month dry spell and we've just now known each other just under a year I have a hard time viewing her now as anything beyond a friend.
I love her and will always be there for her and our child but I don't feel that same attraction I used to feel for her up until she told me to forget about the physical intimacy. I'm not sure what to do now...I know she wants to get married some day and I don't see how I can do that right now.
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