Girlfriend said her ex's name in her sleep whilst i was in the same bed

Question

I was asleep last night and my girlfriend of 1 1/2 years said her ex's name and it woke me up, i thought i had herd things but then clear as day she not says but moans his name. i tried to ignor it and went to sleep, its been bugging me today. i know its naughty but i looked at her e-mails and she has e-mailed him telling him about the dream and it was about them two running away together plus a few other things. we are in our 20's. what should i do how would you deal with this? should i confront her but i can't mention about the e-mails.....

Answer 1

confront her but dont bring up the emails just mention the fact you heard her moaning his name; thats what my boyfriend said he would do.

Answer 2

Dump her you don't need that luggage

Answer 3

Deaf friend,

you need to discuss these thing together and if you get any conclusion that's good for both of you...otherwise leave your friend to make up her mind. Becuase if she loves another person and still living with you there is something missing in your life and that is ..........."LOVE"

God bless you..........bye

Answer 4

hey u should confront her but dont tell her about the emailz and then ask her if shez cheating on u and if she tellz u she is then ditch her u can do better  gd luck

BABYGYRL AKA SONIA - 2K8

Answer 5

Pack her bags and throw her out before she leaves you.

Answer 6

Think nothing of it she was probably having a nightmare!

Answer 7

For goodness sake, none of us can help our dreams!!!

They are just dreams and she has no control over them!

If she just told him about the dream then no worries, if she said "Let's do it" that's another issue. But you shouldn't have read her emails anyway... as well as not being able to control our dreams we are all entitled a) to privacy and b) to have a fantasy or two.

Answer 8

ouch.... i would keep it to yourself for the mean while, if anything happens again mention it... never mention the e-mail bit though, you will never be able to check again because she will delete them. haha

Edit: just read the above answers, i wouldnt do anything that drastic, it was only a dream, and she told her ex about it, she didnt expect you to read it so it may not be plesent reading, but its not a dumpable offence, just keep an eye on it y'know.

Answer 9

tricky one but all you can do is say somink lyk i ad the strangest dream lst nite and make 1 up ten say 2 er what did u dream about lst nite if she says nothin say i heard u mumble yr exe's name lst nite wat wz all dat about

or you could read the reply to her e-mail to her ex

hope i helped

Answer 10

Ok reading the email wasn't the  thing to do, but you should tell her you heard her and ask what its best about..She may tell you the truth but if she doesn't you know shes having other thoughts about her ex.

Answer 11

Wow. Personally i don't think the e-mail thing is good man. There should be at least a certain amount of trust between people in a relationship, and that really is insulting whatever privacy she has. Is it wrong for her to be on good terms with her ex? I'm on good terms with all my ex's. But maybe thats just the overly-suspicious boyfriend talking? If anything you should confront her upfront about it. That will clear up many possible future misunderstandings, and help bring this situation to an end. But more so, believe in the relationship that you have, if you are sure that the feelings in the relationship are real...then have a little faith.  

Answer 12

there is no trust whatsoever, better break up before it really becomes nasty.

Answer 13

Well over all it was just a dream.  The issue is more that she emails him about it talking about them running away together. I say she is still into him and you should break up with her before you get hurt.  If it was just a dream and nothing to worry about I'd say let it go but since she emailed him I'd say shed go back to him anytime if he'd have her and leave you hurt.

Answer 14

He's obvioulsy better at s*x than you. Step up your game.

Answer 15

just tell her you heard her saying his name constantly in her sleep

and you want to no were u are in the relationship because you don't feel stable.

and that you would feel better if she just told you that she had feelings.

i wouldn't mention the emails though...

Answer 16

i think the best is to talk ot her cause is not fair for you

Answer 17

Aww, Im sorry to hear about your problem!! If I were you I would confront her! Tell her about what you heard while sleeping!

Tell her you think she is hiding something! ask her if she is in touch with him...if she denies it, act as if you believe her and the next day print the email, put it on the fridge with a magnet, write liar with big capital letters and leave the house while she is working!! she will be so shocked and morfitied!! The best thing is thatvshe won't be able to accuss you of not trusting her!  

Answer 18

its a dreamm !.. forget about it

Answer 19

Just mention that you heard her talking in her sleep, it could be something completely innocent. I mean you can't control what you dream about, I reckon you've probably had dreams that you'd rather other people didn't know about. She could be moaning AT him, like an argument type of situation. I wouldn't stress yourself too much over it, just talk to her, that's very important. I sleep talk a lot and worry that this sort of thing could happen but just remember she is with you, not her ex, she must care and want to be with you. Sorry it was so long but I hope this helps x

Answer 20

i would confront her and mention the e-mails.  she obviously still has feelings for him so be careful should you go forward in this relationship.

Answer 21

I would confront her about all of it, including the e-mails. It's better to be honest with your girlfriend and let her know how it made you feel. But, I'm sure the dream meant nothing to her if you have been with her for that long.  

Answer 22

I would play it casual...say something like " you seemed to be having a nice dream last night ?" and see where it leads you.

We don't realy have much control over our dreams, so it could be purely innocent. Don't make a huge deal about it but i would bring it up in a casual sort of way ..

good luck !!

Answer 23

tell her about you hearing her say the name in her dream. don't make it sound like your accusing her of anything though.

Answer 24

Yes, I think you should confront her, with, 'I heard you mentioning his name in your sleep last night, what's that supposed to mean?' and lead it from there. Hope I helped.