Girlfriend thinks I'm cheating with ex-wife?

Question

I've been best friends with my girlfriend for over a decade. We have dated in the past, but we started things up again because I am totally in love with her.

We went out today and we ran into my ex-wife from a stupid arranged marriage. I don't know why she was over here, since she lives out of the country. I never had feelings for the wife, but she and my girlfriend hated each other with great passion from the start. My ex threw herself at me and tried to kiss me. I think my girlfriend thinks I wanted it, because she ran off to meet our friends somewhere, and one of them sent a message saying how upset she is and how she thinks I'm cheating.

I threw her off of me and walked away as quickly as I could. I think she has feelings for me. I would never in my life cheat on my girlfriend. How do I let her know? She won't talk to me.

Answer 1

LOL. This is funny. Here is what just happened. The ex wife wanted to make the girlfriend jealous so she threw herself at you knowing that your girlfriend would find it offensive. Next time you see the ex wife, stay clear. She means only to cause you trouble with your girl.

Now with the girlfriend, simply apologize and let her know that the ex only did it to ruffle her feathers. If you did nothing wrong then your apology should be enough.

Then sit back and wait on her to get over it and come to you. Move forward communicating with her and loving her and don't accept the punishment she is trying to bestow upon you if there is truly nothing you did wrong.

Answer 2

Sounds like she has been cheated on before. I most likely as a girl thats been cheated would of reacted the same way. Im not saying its right. it also sounds like the ex is trying to ruin it and caught you off guard.  Somehow when she is ready to talk, you can ask your wife how you could of handled it better, that would of made her feel better. She needs to learn and it takes patience and time that you nor her can control what this ex does, and that by fighting about it you are letting her "win" Take some time to work out a plan of action when the ex does this stuff that will make you both prepared and  handle it where the ex knows her place.

Answer 3

Well f she cares about you as much as she says she does, I think she'll talk to you just give her time, and when she does give you that opportunity re assure her that you have no interest in her, and I strongly think you need to talk to this ex wife and let her know what is going on, it isn't fair to her to continue letting her believe it is okay to kiss you like that, I think you should talk to her while your girlfriend is present, that way it is all out in the open, no secrets, good luck!