Girls, Can you help me write a letter? I am going to get rid of my feller? ?

Question

He is getting to be a pain in the neck with all his winging and whining. It's hard to believe that he's 25. He may be good looking but it's not enough, I want mature. Shall I just tell him to "Hit the dust?" or would you put it a nicer way? Should I make him tears and weepy or angry? Help is needed.

Answer 1

Writing a letter is the cowardly way of doing it.  You simply tell him politely that you don't feel it is working out between you and you want to split.

Answer 2

Dear whoever,

You are a weenie boy and in this part of my life I find myself wanting more. You don't need a girlfriend, you need a Mom.

I'm not really ready to be a mom right now so this just isn't working out. I think it is time to move on.  

Answer 3

Stop being such a d**k and call him up and tell him you don't want to see him anymore.  That's all you need to do.  Why would you want to hurt him or make him cry?

Answer 4

instead of writing him a note just tell him to his face.if he dosnt like it then tough luck.good luck in whatever you do :-)

Answer 5

Tell him to his face, but don't tell him you're dumping him because he whines and winges too much and you want someone more mature - that's going to make him feel like c**p - you mean girl, and YOU want someone more mature?!

Just tell him it's not working and you want to be single or something.

Be nice yeah, these are your bf's feelings your dealing with ;)

Answer 6

And your asking this in Etiquette ----be polite be more than nice and have a wild time----- what have you to lose---- if your really out there he may just back off----- so what a way to go. At least he will remember you. It may be awhile before you get involved again so make the most of this comfort zone. Comfort in that your not in love so can experiment without passion getting in the way or worrying whether it is the right thing to do ! And when you are so physically tired you can probably let him know that no matter what you tried it hasn't worked. He may be oh so relieved and you are off the hook. So go out there and start exercising and getting fitter and see what he can really do maybe even run !

Answer 7

Unless he's specifically done something to hurt you, theres no need to be malicious. Breaking up with him will, if nothing else, hurt his pride enough. Just tell him strait (and too his face) that your breaking up with him. You can be pretty honest about the reasons if you want but leave it at that and walk away. Doesn't sound like you have an emotional connection with him but even if he doesnt show it, he might well feel he has one with you so be easy on him. Don't end on a bad note but do what you gotta do! All the best. x

Answer 8

Write out the angriest, bitchiest letter that you can about your relationship: what bugs you so much about him, certain instances that still bug you months after it happened, how things make you feel. Take a deep breath, eat a cookie, and read it over. Now rip it up into little pieces and burn it. Seriously. (Whatever you do, NEVER let anyone see this letter, especially NOT him.)

Write another letter. Hopefully, by this time, most of the need to want to make him cry would have left you. You want to come out being mature: choose your words and let him know what's so annoying about him so that the next girl doesn't inherit it.

Put the letter away for a day or two (or a few hours, if you're that much in a hurry). Read it again, or have a girlfriend read it, and this way you won't go in unprepared and potentially say something that you may later regret. (However, don't memorize it. This is just to organize your thoughts and give you key points.)

Answer 9

Firstly, you DON'T do that in a letter. Or an e-mail. If you want to end it, at least have the backbone to tell him to his face. If you want mature, YOU have to be mature enough to do your dirty work in person. By writing a letter, you are dodging the obvious pain you will certainly cause. Look that pain in the face. There is no easy way to break up with someone. It will ALWAYS cause pain. And to think you can let yourself off the hook for causing that pain is immature and in poor character.  

Answer 10

From a male perspective: I would rather a simple, "this isn't working out" that is honest be handed me.

If in your case, if he's that think, perhaps a little elaboration would do, say to him "If any other part of you were as big as your ego..." Seriously, be kind, firm, and get it over--for both of your sakes.

P.S. I do like your "hit the dust" if that isn't as to the point as any, I don't know what is.