Girls, I broke up with my ex of 4 years 3 years ago. I wasn't ready for the house and kid........?

Question

We were only 22 when we met, now we're 29. We were VERY close for the time we were together, We were very much in love, and I shattered her heart, (and mine too) But I wasn't ready for the bigger picture, And honestly I thought I could do better. I wanted to play the field. After 2 years of only seeing her maybe 4 times She started coming into my car shop for service. She even brought in her new boyfriend which was fine with me. I was over her. Now I'm starting to wonder if I have made a collosal mistake, and more importantly, I wonder if she was feeling me out, even though she brought her friend with her. My Sis seems to think there is something to this. I tried to get her to hang out as friends last winter, but she never took me up on it. Then she started coming into the shop in the spring/early summer...... I sent her an e-mail a month ago, a few days after my B-day, and no response......Am I just a fricken idiot, and lost her forever? What do I do?

Answer 1

Now is the time to be up front and ask her out for lunch or something.  No beating around the bush or guessing.  It's the quickest way to find out for sure.

Answer 2

Sure sounds like it. No answer is an answer. You shattered her heart and apparently didn't even care since you played the field and were over her. You finally figured out you lost a good thing...7 years later? I'd say leave her alone and let her live her life. She doesn't need another head trip with you.  

Answer 3

Nothing, never rewind, always go forward. She has moved on; not responding to your e- mail or taking you up on any of your offers. She os over you.

Answer 4

beat yourself up for the rest of your life for this mistake.

or...

move on

Answer 5

Sounds like she has moved on successfully, and you have not.  You are jealous of her success.  If there were enough problems to split in the first place, what makes you think that there would not be problems again.  Don't put her or yourself through that again.  Just move on and find someone that will make you happy.  It appears you may need to look in different places from where you are looking now.

Answer 6

Try all your best to move on, don't expect anything from HER anymore you are just hurting yourself. Pls try to consider hanging out with some other girls you don't have to have commitment with them right away but just kinda get to know them and check where your feelings @. Good luck. NO MORE HEARTACHES.

Answer 7

You have opened the door for reconciliation and she chose not to enter it.  By not answering your E-mail and refusing your offer to go out as friends, she is letting you know she's no longer interested.  You're probably feeling that you're older and ready for the whole home and family thing, but there isn't anyone in your life right now.  get out and find someone new.