Girls, I need your opinion on bulimic girls. [Short question.]?

Question

Say it was the first day of school. And you went to the bathroom after lunch. And you heard this girl throwing up in the bathroom. So you obviously knew she was bulimic. What would you do? Would you tell your friends and stuff, or would you tell the counslor or what?

Answer 1

I'm not a girl, but here's some advice.  Find out who she is, approach her, and try to help her.  

Answer 2

Ok. First of all, please do not tell your friends. I have an ED and I would deny it and probably hate you for telling everyone.

But definitely tell a teacher or counselor or anyone in charge. Please. You can't know about this and not do something.

Answer 3

Its Heidi has a great answer!! We do not know why the girl was getting sick in the bathroom. Perhaps, sneak & see if this is repeated a week later? Is this a good idea?

I was anorexic! and I loved it!!!!!!! So, confronting me was not going to work! I also have bi polar mental illness. It was diagnosed later. I was  told that it is not so uncommon for mentally ill people to develop an eating disorder!! Heck, can you imagine the thoughts of a teenager with mental illness ? or ADD? "what if you thought the radio had secret coded messages only meant for you, or that someone kept calling your name at work, or the devil was whispering in your ear, or... dang! Why can't someone stop that phone from ringing?"    That's a lot of stress!

"does this outfit make my rear look fat?" might not even make the list of excessive things to worry about! (Can you say anxiety disorder? That's what I have too!) Can you imagine all this added stress on top of the usual parent /teenager conflicts? sibling conflicts? students spreading rumors?

I heard that a mentally ill person hated all those thoughts racing through their head! They feel like they have no control!!! One thing that a person can CONTROL is how much food you eat!

some eating disorders are about control! Are there other issues involved? Is she abused at home? If the throwing up incident is repeated, I might suggest having the school counselor privately schedule an appointment by a note from the student's normal teacher just saying "Please go to the office for some paperwork or something" inconspicuous. (not embarrassing her in front of her peers & spreading curiosity/rumors!).

Answer 4

The best thing to do would be to go to an adult and let them know, the girl obviously needs help. But that option might be stressful for the girl, who might not want to admit it. I would confront the girl, and let her know that what shes doing is unhealthy. Tell her to tell someone or stop, and keep an eye on her

Answer 5

I would try to confront her and tell her I'm concerned, and see the counselor and tell her. I don't care if she's my friend or not, because if she were really my friend than I'd want her to live, since bulimia is a very serious disease. I'd also try to be sympathetic and understanding, since society has such a skewed view of what "healthy" women look nowadays.

Answer 6

I would confront the girl.. maybe she was just sick.. if you find out she is bulimic go to the counselor or a trusted teacher

Answer 7

i wouldnt tell my friends, because then you know the word is gunna get out and people will start to gossip.. i honestly wouldnt do anything

Answer 8

i've got no clue.

the next time that you see her (anywhere other than a bathroom though), compliment her. tell her those jeans look great on her or something, even if you dont know the girl at all. that's what i'd do.

Answer 9

I wouldn't assume anything.

Maybe they ate some bad food? Food poisoning? Maybe they are pregnant? Maybe they saw something incredibly gross, and just lost it.

There could be a lot of reasons for that girl to be throwing up.

If you really were concerned, I wouldn't tell my friends. That is the easiest way for rumors to be spread around. Even if your friends are very trustworthy, they are not the ones who could help the girl.

Talking with a school counselor could be a way to help.

But like I said, I wouldn't assume anything. What if she's just sick?

You never know.

Answer 10

she could just be sick.  and stay out of it.  its none of your business.  unless this person confides in you mind your own beeswax.  its a touchy subject.

Answer 11

Approaching someone on that subject could be very bad, if you now this girl express concern and offer to help. Or maybe you could get the school to be more aware of what's going on in the bathroom and talk about getting some eating disorder programs.