Girls, what's your take on my dumbassness?

Question

I just feel like a dumbass. I have talked to this girl I used to work with a few times online. She always asks me what's new with me. and I always tell her but my follow up questions suck. I never ask her what's new with her, or hows school doing.

Do you think she thinks I am self centered? Because I am not, I want to learn more about her, I have opened up but I am so nervous when I talk to her (even online) I never say the correct things.

SO, whats your take, give me some tips or suggestions. (Note: I did write down a few things I should remember so say to her, so maybe this will help)

I should also mention I asked her to do an activity with me but I didn't know she was not in town and she told me and she thanked me for offering.

Answer 1

aww..how sweet she makes you nervous..haha

just ask her questions and be nice

you dont sound like a dumbass to me..but if you really think you are..its fine as long as your not a jackass too

Answer 2

Well ask her to hang out when she's back in town. You should just ask her about everything first because if you make the conversation about her, she'll think you're interested in her and her lifestyle that's being on the right track. If you want to pursue a relationship or a fling, you gotta flirt-it-up!

Good luck buddy!

Answer 3

just ask her hows life

or how bout them red sox

or thank god its friday what are u up to this weekend

Answer 4

Try drugging her so she will fall asleep. After being a doctor for many years I have found that it is very easy to talk to someone when they are unconscious.  

Answer 5

Just relax and be yourself.  I think you are trying too hard.

Answer 6

I'm sure she don't think your self centered may be a little rude but thats ok or I don't think she would not talk to you.  I would just when you start to talk to her just say hello how are you doing you have a good day what is new,  just try to be cool about it.  I would ask her out again when she gets in town.  Good Luck seems like you have a real thing for her.    

Answer 7

i think she might think your a little self ceneterd. Ive been talking to this guy on the computer to that i met and he rarely asks me questions and it drives me crazy! so then im the one who has to come up with all the questions and i feel like me and him are playing 20 questions excpet im alwasy the one asking the questions! its sweet that ur afraid to talk to her and im sure that would flatter her if she knew. At least you have some tips for yourself, as for me to give you some im sry...i would just say when she asks you one, ask her the same one back and paybe a conversation could get started from there