Girls,how do you deal with discriminating situations or words addressed at you?

Question

Doesn't it make you feel like going into a rage rush when you hear guys say sexist stuff about women? Treating them like objects,acting all superior and all that junk......How about religious men,who most of them tend to be very judgemental of women and pretty discriminating at a certain amount....Doesn't this just make you explode? It does me.

How do you deal with sexists/misogysts?

And especially,how do you deal with misogynistic claims,replies at YOU? (meaning as getting personal with you).

Answer 1

No need to get all emotional honey.

;)

Answer 2

i know its hard for us women eh? Men seem to have this stupid idea that we have it easy.

Well i deal with it by -

not getting involved with religion

swearing at men who say these things to your face

ignoring the comments when they are heard but not said to you.

Answer 3

it's not my problem, so i am loathe to expend any of my energy on the subject or the person.

Answer 4

I yell

Answer 5

Do not sound like a "stupid woman" when replying to their snide remarks. Sometimes it is best to ignore them. I never do though. I usually do get pretty heated, but I try not to over react. I am very serious. And I explain that they are nothing compared to women (I'm not sexist). I explain that women do a lot more than they ever could. We aren't object. We are much more than them, we really are. We are complex and think in ways they can not. We are the bearer of children, and the only reason they are around.  

Sometimes they will say something nasty back at you. Sometimes you need to just leave it and let them live as the pigs they were raised as.

Answer 6

I've gotten rid of most of my guy friends because of that.

I think it's more about who "won," if you know what I mean.  And it's hard, as somebody who likes to win, I'm still dealing with it.  Basically to demean them in every way possible *mentally only* and then feel better about it.

Answer 7

I used to work in the construction industry, for a company that manufactures construction supplies and equipment.  I was the only woman in the office.

All of us were responsible for answering the phones and taking orders.  At least a couple of times a day I would get a call asking for "the parts desk".  What they really meant was they wanted to speak to a man, since they assumed I wouldn't know what to do.  I would always reply cheerfully, "I can take your order."  Usually that would be enough, but sometimes a fellow might insist, "Well honey, I need to order parts."  I'd answer in the same cheerful tone, "That's OK, I got'cha!"  Never once did someone insist beyond that point.  It would have been too directly rude, and they didn't want to take things that far.  I'd take their order, ask all the right questions, give them a price, and by the time it was done they knew I knew what I was doing.  I'd be as sweet about it as little miss sunshine.  It wasn't rare for them to apologize afterwards for doubting me.  It was actually more common for them to exclaim, "Dang girl, you know your stuff!  I'll see you this afternoon to come pick up that order."  I couldn't blame them for having been skeptical; I mean how many women do you know who knows a grade 8 hex cap s***w  from a clevis hanger, or what drill bit is best to use to cut glass?  There's a HUGE amount of product knowledge for that kind of job, and you can't blame them for being surprised that a woman would choose to work in that field.  

I also made deliveries to construction sites and did estimates and bids on site.  I became a bit of a celebrity in the local industry, and plenty of companies preferred to do business with me instead of the guys.  Who can blame them?  If you worked all day with a bunch of dirty, grumpy guys, wouldn't you want to see a pleasant face- with a smile on it no less- every once in a while?  

The year before I worked there, there was another woman in the office.  She would get very offended when contractors assumed she wasn't as knowledgeable as the male employees and would even pitch fits about it.  She didn't last long.  She was so disliked that a few customers were really upset to see me when I joined the team.  They thought, "Oh no, not another one!"  The year after I started working there, another woman joined us.  She didn't have to deal with nearly so much negative assumptions as I did, because our customer base had already come to expect that a woman could do the job and do it right.  We both made a good living there.  I moved on, and she became the manager of that store.  Heck, that was so many years ago, she may be a district manager by now.

I've found the best way to address discrimination is to simply prove them wrong.  All it takes is one time of demonstrating that their assumptions are incorrect, and the battle is won.  There's no bloodshed involved either, if you do it with a smile.  Besides, why would I want to stay pissed off and insulted all day long???

Answer 8

most stereo types about women aren't true.

Women are bad driver=more men are killed on our roads than men

Women belong in the kitchen=I can't cook either can my mother the only person person who cooks in my house are my brothers I know it's sounds false but it really isn't.

and sexism works both ways there are allot of men that do enjoy cooking and there are women who like cars but as far as sexism goes it's actually better than it ever was.Men and Women with the exception of the one or two professions so the best way to deal with stuff like boys making inappropriate comments when your walking by and stuff like that.Your better of ignoring it little boys making up for there little man hoods.

Answer 9

well i usually make a smartass comment back or something witty... like they might say something like 'oh women belong in the kitchen not in the office" i would then reply something like 'wow feel sorry for ur mommy, do u kiss her with those lips" or "gosh ur right and after that a good beating is in order" something like that.... then u can laugh at them.

Answer 10

I don't generally deal with them. I usually give it right back though. It also helps to consider the source.

Answer 11

First, I'm going to assume you are not being overly sensitive. I frankly have no problem with good-natured kidding around... sexual or otherwise. I would meet good-natured sexual kidding with equally good-natured sexual kidding. Sexuality is part of nature and to deny that is just silly.

BUT, when I, or someone working for me, was being harassed or the kidding went beyond good-natured... and anyone with sense can tell the difference... I would get in the person's face. Usually that's all it takes. Most guys back down real quick when that happens. If you let it slide, look all upset, try to ignore it, or whatever... you are just encouraging them to do it more. I got two guys to take early retirement who crossed the line and got another one put under a management microscope for many months.

A professional woman can't walk around wearing a "Watch what you say, I'm a feminist" sign all the time. It doesn't take much to cross the line to "Watch what you say, I'm just an overly sensitive Bi-yotch." I was very well respected by men and women alike everywhere I worked, because I set reasonable boundaries and made sure everyone around me respected them.