Girls I need help with my relationship?

Question

Hi

Im 21 and have a bf who's older than me, well recently i have realized that im having problems with my bf over s*x!

anyway the main problem is that he is very different from me, and he wants to try new positions all the time and that is very hard for me :(

i can not do whatever he wants me to coz basically it hurts me all the time.

Last time we had s*x we had to stop it in middle coz of me and he told me he can not stand this any more and i don't really want to loose him over this. please help me what should i do?

thanks

Answer 1

I am sorry to say but from what you have said he sounds a very selfish person, and only wants things his way, and if he can't be a bit more considerate toward you then really he is not the one for you, and sometimes the older man can be a bit more than selfish than a younger one, as they have "been there, and done it" so to speak, and he is set in his ways and expects every one to do what he wants and the way he wants,and it is that what makes him oh so selfish, as i said i am sorry to be the way i have been but your best bet is to let him go and move on, and hopefully on to someone a bit more considerate.

Answer 2

He is not understanding, and that is important in

a relationship.  Talk to him about it, and you don't

need to accept everything HE WANTS.

Compromise is the key here.

Answer 3

He's not concerned for your feelings, pleasures or that you are in pain.  That is a huge red flag.

Read the book: Are You the One for Me? by Barbara DeAngelis

Answer 4

omg. This sounds terrible. He should be more considerate of you what you want and also thats it hurts you!!! red flag!!

Answer 5

well you can just give in and do it his way or just tell him that its hurting you and you can't do it the ways he wants you to