Girls Please answer!! Why do I keep getting friendzoned by girls?

Question

I just turned 18. I'm in my senior year of high school. I'm 5'11, 170 lbs, I'm muscular (I mean I won't be starring in the sequel of 300 or anything, but I got some muscle) I play running back for my school's football team, and I have a 3.9 average in school. I've never had a girlfriend, and I've never even kissed a girl before. All the girls I talk to tell me I'm really sweet and nice, I've even had a girl tell me that she just wanted to stare at me and watch me flex my arms, but everytime I ask a girl out they only want to be friends. What gives? I know they say that nice guys finish last but I can't bring myself to be an ****** to girls bedcause when I see my friends do that I think it makes them look childish. All I want is a girl that loves me for who I am not what I do, who I can carry an intelligent conversation with, who can make me laugh, and if she is beautiful that is a bonus. So why can't I find a girlfriend?

Answer 1

i feel like i have the same problem kinda.

but anyways.

no don't turn into an a*****e

sry i don't really know what else to say but these girls really seem like they're missing out on something good.

Answer 2

You sound like a great guy.  I love the fact that you would rather treat girls with respect than to treat them like a piece of meat like some guys do.  We don't really know you, so it's hard to make an accurate judgement call here, but I'm guessing that you're either:

a) a little shy around girls

b) you're not letting your self-confidence shine through

or quite possibly:

c) you just need some patience and she'll come along eventually

Answer 3

Wow you sound like a great guy.  But it also sounds like your a bit too eager to get a girlfriend that you might be scaring the girls away.  My advice is to chill out and don't worry about it.  If the right one is out there then you will find her but until then just have fun while your still young.

Answer 4

girls like guys that r hard to get.....a catch.....being tooooo nice makes girls feel like ur their girlfriend.....u dont have to be mean or anything or change urself just be a bit more aloof...a man's man .....girls like men how r in charge and if girls need emotional support they have their girlfriends not a guy

Answer 5

For right now just be friends with as many girls as possible.  You will learn a lot from them and will also make some great friends.  It is when you are not looking that a relationship will come.  Most relationships begin with friendship.

Also while its rough right now many girls do not want to be tied down as seniors. So while that might suck now I GUARENTEE that once you hit college girls will be all over wanting you as a boy friend because cute guys who are not jerks are hard to come upon in college.  So just be yourself and a girl will fall in love with you for who you are.

Answer 6

Hey!  Let me tell you this: Becoming friends with girls is a great step.  Don't try to jump into relationships right away.  I have lots of guy friends, and they respect me and other girls because we are only friends.  In the future, we may bond with those of the opposite gender in a deeper way than friends, but for now, I'm just befriending the guys and let nature take its course.

From a guy's perspective: Getting to know a girl as a friend is awesome.  You may discover that it's nice to know girls as just friends for now.  When the right girl comes along and sees that you're a respectable person, you two will click sooner or later.  The fact that girls want to become your friend only is HUGE - really worth wild guys are the ones that everyone wants to be friends with.  The ones with all the girlfriends tend to be the guys that put all their effort into girlfriends, and don't seem to have any other goals or values.

Don't find a girlfriend to feed your ego.  Love is best experienced when it's genuine and not put on as a show.  If your friends ditch you because you are without a girlfriend, they are not true friends.  

You're only 18.  Be proud of the fact that you have never dated/kissed.  Neither have I - I'm saving the dating part for when a good guy comes along, and I am saving the kissing part for marriage.  Think of it this way: when you meet the girl that will become your wife, you have saved your first kiss for just her, along with all the other magical things that are supposed to be a part of marriage and marriage only!!  Imagine how special that will make you and her feel?  

Relax.  Don't worry about girlfriends - focus on them as friends and friends only.  Enjoy your sports.  Focus on getting your schoolwork done well and complete. Go to a movie with your guy friends.  Learn a new skill.  Have fun in your senior year and leave the girlfriend part aside until you feel like the right girl has come along.

Answer 7

You seem to be very mature for your age. Often, girls in high school don't appreciate that for what it is. Don't worry, you'll be off to college soon, and  you'll be able to meet lots of girls who appreciate you for who you are. Just don't change, you sound like a great guy :)

Answer 8

I agree with "I like this boy"

Answer 9

Im in the same boat. What you described sounds like my situation. I would say that we are older men in young mens' bodies. I think what a lot of women our age want are guys who live "on the edge", whatever that means. They want to date "exciting" guys.

I get friendzoned all the time. I realized that it has allowed me to understand women better. So while all the other guys are all of having their "in the moment" pleasures, I am learning to do all that stuff women want later. You know, sympathy, empathy, and support. Don't dismiss the significance of being in the friendzone, you can learn a lot.

Women will get older and realize they what they thought was "on the edge" and "exciting" was just immaturity. They will look for men like us, who are intellectually stimulating and safe to be with, not going to cheat. Yeah, we can be exciting without doing stupid stuff.

Answer 10

dude i have the same problem.....and I realized that I'm much happier with a ton of girls that are my friends than with having a girlfriend....just be urself and eventually when the time is right u'll find a girl.....

Answer 11

i really dont know...that baffles me because you sound like a great guy. your right dont be an ****** to girls because like you said it looks childish. you will find a girl who loves you for you.  

Answer 12

you will find a girl. i would date you so if that helps haha, and im a girl so your not at a total loss. dont worry too much it may seem like everybody is dating but girls these days go out with guys for all the wrong reasons. its super hard to find a decent guy these days. and you seem like one. so the good, and nice girls are the ones you need to go for. im shy and quiet so i would go for a guy like you. you will find a girl you like and she will like you it just might take some time. but being patient you will find the best girl and then all your freinds will be jealous. so just be patient and it will all work out. best of luck to you.

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Answer 13

You'll find that life is oftentimes both cruel and ironic. We deal.

Answer 14

maybe the girls just arent mature enough

i may be pretty young, but even i know that any girl that turns a guy like that down is definetly losing out

Answer 15

Awh your a good catch and such a sweetheart girls will see that. College will be your time don't worry.

Answer 16

Yeah, it's too bad, but a lot of girls (notice I said "girls", not "women")

are attracted to a**holes.

You sound like you have a LOT to offer, so just be yourself...

but DON'T be a doormat. There's a difference between being nice and being walked on!

Make yourself unavailable - create some mystery

they'll come around :)

Answer 17

I have the same problem, except i have had girlfriends and i have kissed, but chicks never want to be more than friends... I'm smart, trustworthy, apparently im pretty cute... Hmm... I don't know.

Answer 18

Just be your self...

you will get a girl eventually!

Answer 19

I'll be your gf! haha but seriousy, i have this problem too. You are probably just way too mature for most girls. All people want to do in high school is hook up randomly and have pointless relationships. Just hang in there.

Answer 20

Well if you went to my school i would totally go out with you

i think you are very mature for your age and you will find the perfect girl trust me. ^^

she will one day show up out of the blue and take your breath away!

just keep looking and she will find you  

Answer 21

I'm 19... I didn't get my first girlfriend and kiss till I was 18.

Just hang in there...its what I'm doing. Not much else we can do is there lol? But if you figure it out let me know!