Girls - Poll: If he buys you dinner, do you owe him s*x?

Question

Not enough characters in the title, but - say he comes to your house with a dozen roses, buys you a fancy dinner, takes you on a tour of the city and obviously spent an elaborate amount of money on him - do you feel like you need to sleep with him, then?

If you want to explain your reason why you feel you do or you don't, feel free. :) I like debates.

Answer 1

No. I don't believe that calls to have s*x. I was told that guys love challenges. If he wants you that bad then give him suspense. Play hard to get a lil. If he gets you right off the bat then he feels he don't need to do all that sweet stuff anymore.  

Answer 2

Only if you want to do that, a dinner date is not some form of pre-agreement to have s*x with him, while I'm sure he was hoping that would be the end result of going out with him, to expect it is not good manners. It's your body, you get to decide what you do with it, not him.

Answer 3

sorry to answer in a "girls" poll !

but if i was to take a girl out and i really liked them i would be happy to try and impress them as some girls like to be spoilt.

i do "hope" very very few men expect s*x after a date like this though some idiots im sure think this way. by not sleeping with them you are helping to keep the gene pool cleaner and making a better future for our children :)

I will also go so far as to say if i really liked a girl a lot if she was up for s*x on a first date it would put me off them for any type of decent releationship .I may take them up on the offer seeing as it is never going to work long term and i do infact like s*x. (yes shallow but i am male!)

I spent a h**l of a lota cash on one girl on a first date because i really liked her . i got a mutual kiss at the end of the night . we didnt sleep together for many weeks aftter although dated .. that same girl some 4 years later i am now going to marry in 6 weeks time ... aww love can be found .. just dont sleep for cash ! or any decent man will run a mile !

Answer 4

No because no amount of money means he'd get to have s*x with me if i didn't want to, otherwise I'd feel like a prostitute! If he'd done all that for me i probably would want to sleep with him anyway though!

Answer 5

as a guy  i would do this because i want to not because i want something.

Answer 6

No. I am not a w***e, don't try to buy me. If you want to have s*x marry me . . . and he did.

Answer 7

No.  That makes it a marketplace transaction - like you'd have with a hooker!   I'd assume that if he did those things for me it was to please me and get to know me better.  In the same way I'd do things to make him happy, like a pair of tickets to the auto races.  But I owe s*x to no one and neither does he.

Answer 8

I agree with all the above, no. I buy my girl dinner, send flowers, buy extravagant gifts, because I want to, I enjoy seeing her smile.    

Answer 9

Well, to me s*x isn't something I owe anyone, It should be something you only do because you two love each other and BOTH feel its a right time and you are both ready. Having s*x with him just because you feel you "owe" it to him, isn't really love. I feel like if he really loves you he would be doing all those nice things for you, just to make you happy and not to "get in your pants". I honestly believe s*x is for marriage only, but since I can't expect everyone else to believe that, I can at least say that girls don't owe any guy s*x, ever, unless you marry them. Like you shouldn't feel that every time a guy spends money on you that you owe them s*x, because that seems crazy to me. If you feel like they really only did what they did because they love you, and you want to have s*x with them, then that's a whole other story. But yeah that's just the way I feel about the situation. =]

Answer 10

If the answer is yes, you gave me an idea.

Answer 11

Not in the f*cking slightest. He can't BUY my affection :/ What if this was what he did for our first date? Am I expected to have s*x with him then even though I barely know him? I don't think so. Maybe I'd give up the goods after we'd been in a relationship for a few months and then he did something like this for me. Otherwise, he hasn't got a hope in h**l.

Answer 12

No.  And he is totally stupid for assuming such a thing.  Don't ppl go on dates to spend time with each other anymore?

Answer 13

I take a lady to dinner and buy her flowers and show her a good time  because I want to not because I expect something.  Now if s*x does happen it will be completely voluntary, her choice and my good fortune.

If any guy does expect it he should just purchase the services of an escort, and not waste your time.

Answer 14

Ummm... Its up to the mood and the mood only...

Answer 15

Unless you are a prostitute you don't owe anyone s*x for anything they bought you.  

Answer 16

I have the conviction my s*x costs more than that. If you're not willing to pay for it with a promise and a ring, then keep walking.

Answer 17

You owe him nothing

He might think you do though

SteveC

Answer 18

you guys dont owe us anything. just  the smile on your face is all we ask for in return

Answer 19

No. Just because someone gives me a gift it doesn't entitle them to anything.  We all have a choice about the things we do.  

Answer 20

no not at all, if he spends a fourtune on you wineing and dinning you he most def likes you this does not mean you have to sleep with him at all, if thats what he wants and has taken you out only for that reason he is not a man and certenly not one that will respect you if you go ahead and make his dream come true-make him work for it-i belive that if he takes you out 1st then you take him out 2nd that way you dont o him n he dont o u, if you really like each other after a few dates and feel its right then by all means sleep with him but dont be sucked in by the charms and money spent there not worth it.

Answer 21

h**l No!

am not going to sleep with a man if he takes me out on a nice date and he expects that am ganna sleep with him!

nope because it proves that he's just a player!