Girls..can you handle being someone else booty call?

Question

I tried having friends with benefits relationships before but they are not for me. I had one guy who would only call me when is horny just to do the deed. He would drop me home as soon as he got o****m. There was no cuddling after or fore play. We never hang out or talk on the phone. He would only ring me when he was Horney.

At first it was fun but I ended up feeling like a cheap w***e and getting used so one time when he called me, I told him to go to h**l.

I figured out it’s not for me because I am get attached too easily.

So can you handle being someone’s*u*c*k buddy?

Answer 1

Being friends with benefits with somebody doesn't mean being the booty call. It's two consenting adults agreeing to have s*x without getting into relationship. I did that and we were friends and respect each other. Being a booty call means somebody's using you for s*x and doesn't have much respect for you.

Answer 2

I would love to be a F-buddy for some chick.  Why is the world so backwards?

Answer 3

Under the situation you describe he would also have to be there for me. If I was single I would much prefer the friends with benefits relationship.

Answer 4

Why settle 4 only being a booty call? A person should be totally in love with oneself first and then look for love with some one else. Never settle 4 anything less than what you are expecting. When you began allowing the other person to use you as a rag doll that he picked up only when he wanted 2 play; you were leading him to think that was only what you are worth! What is this friends with benefits?.....that is crazy....you are continuously allowing yourself 2 be treated like a w***e....A man will tell you whatever to get in your panties...but you have to be smarter and love your self more than 2 keep being a door mat........How is it fun being treated like a tramp? Not only is there the chance of you getting pregnant by someone who cares nothing about you.....but you also risk the chance of getting a STD or even worse AIDS.......even if you are using condoms there is always still a chance because the only 100% safe thing is abstinence.....

Love yourself.......do not be a f**k buddy for anyone...!

Answer 5

You weren't a cheap w***e, you were a free one.

I'm not. Never have been, never will be.

Answer 6

you know its not that your a cheap w***e its just that you at one point you thought that just by having a booty call would be best for you as well. i did at one point, and you wernt a w***e because it was just one man! i finally wanted the love affection and honesty of being treated like a queen and when i met my husband i told him the complete truth about my so called booty call and he loves me either way so dont feel that way it happens to the best of us!  

Answer 7

As long as I was having fun and was getting something out of it, I don't mind a FWB relationship. Not every relationship has to be serious. But I wouldn't want to have anything to do with someone who only thinks of themselves, including sexually. It has to be mutually beneficial, even when it's not exclusive or serious.

Answer 8

h**l no, I wouldn't disrespect myself like that.

Answer 9

Lots of women can, and it is a particularly common thing in Black and Hispanic cultures.... many of these kids are raised by single moms... in the case of the Black community, 62% are now kids living with just mom, while "only(?)" 30% of whites.

Many  young Black women are rather stuck, since at any given time more than 10% of the Black male population is in prison  (google all this stuff).  And among Hispanics, women are simply used to having no real husband-father figure around, particularly in the first and second generation who have come to the US.   They identify with their moms in that their sole role in life is to have children. This is a common thing in Mexico... Machisimoism in Mexico.  Both women and men have bought into it.  It is the way they were raised, so they expect nothing better for themselves.  In Mexico, it is not uncommon for a woman to have 13 children, several die, several of her sons murdered in bar fights, and her daughters pregnant by 14.  It as well goes along with the male not simply having a drink at the end of the day, but getting as drunk as possible...If you have never driven in Mexico at night, don't ever start.

In addition, Blacks and Hispanic women who continue their education rather "price" themselves out of a partner of any sort among their own race.  If they are educated, a hs drop out isn't too appealing, so they date Caucasians.

As well, educated Caucasian women who have no baggage in the way of kids by other men, have the pick of everyone, while those with kids, too fat, and otherwise unappealing, are regarded as a notch or two above beautiful Black and Hispanic women by male members of those groups... go figure.

So, though your booty call mentality does indeed exist among Caucasian females, it is far more common among Black and Hispanic women.

Answer 10

if you go into it using them & you can call them when you need your back scratched, it would not be so bad...depends on what side of the road you are on.