Girls: how would i ask you to.........?

Question

come hang out, go for a coffee or what ever as a friend without you thinking im trying to get a date or make a move. Because i seriously just want to hang out with more girls in my life and actually find a gf but yeah its taking a while. Chilling with the boys is getting boring. Im 18 in high school and pretty good looking just shy and a virgin by choice lol. Any way how do i ask a girl eg. in my class to hang out even if they have a bf... i wouldnt mind getting dating tips and advice from a friend that is a girl you know.... Like there is this girl i sit next in maths class who has a bf and d**n fine looking but shes cool eg. art, sporty a potential good friend... that i would like to get to know more outta school as im more myself and talkative because we dont talk much and dont know each other well. I would actually want some advice about girls from her.. would be a fun topic and talking to someone about problems about the opposite s*x to the opposite s*x would be great and helpful. So thats an example so yeah i would i get her to have a friendly coffee etc with me with out being awkward when asking and when she is alone?????And i dont want to 'go out' with her as she is taken i want her as a friend! Please Help!!!!

Answer 1

Prince Joker,

no one will believe you'll only want to hang out with her, and with her only...look, let's say that i believe you, but that's not helpful.

when pals hang out, no matter if they are girls or guys, without any obligation, you know what i mean, they know each other for a long time, spent great time together, etc.

but, in your case, it's pretty hard to make that girl get out with you and suspect nothing. maybe you should introduce her into your group first, invite her bf too, :))

Answer 2

just make short talk in class first, become friends in class then ask if she would ever like to hang out some time just as friends and that you understand she has a bf but you just want to be friends.

Answer 3

ok just go up to her and say would you like to grab a coffee just as friends as i know you have a bf i would like to be your friends  

Answer 4

tell these girls you are pretty much a loner but would like to spend a little time with them as a friend so you don't become a total hermit.... And let them know you know they have boyfriends ..or whatever you have to say ..to get them to be comfortable with you as a friend.

Answer 5

I think either you just have to be blunt and say "hey, what are you up to after school today? wanna get a coffee? and don't worry, i know you have a boyfriend - i mean just as friends!" and tell her the exact situation.

OR

you could arrange something in a group - get some guy friends and some girl friends, or ask if she's got some friends who want to go do whatever you want to do, and then the pressure is off because there's lots of you there, and it shouldn't seem so much like you're trying to hit on her.

i'm impressed you've thought about this so much though!! and i totally agree that it can be difficult - i've always found it a bit of a problem. but it should be fine if you keep it casual, and if you want to be sure just be totally upfront and honest with her and tell her what you told us. just don't go overboard or she'll think you're trying to cover something up!! good luck :)

Answer 6

what?..but whatever way, the boyfriend might think you're either trying to date his girl or you're g*y..

Answer 7

tell her you like tuna, snort, laugh, then ask her if she wasnt to go have coffee and chat about math class and how cool it is

thats how i got her    

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