Girls with high standards?

Question

Gentlemen, do you find this intimidating and scare you off? Or is it more of a challenge? Do you have high standards for women? What do they include?

And ladies, do you have high standards yourself? And if so, what do YOUR standards include?

Personality? Looks? Education? Income? Etc?

Answer 1

The last girl that dumped me for high standards severely regrets it now. She's living with a man in a single wide mobile home with his children and his mother on state assistance.

She chose greed and vanity and look where it landed her. After she dumped me and he dumped her months later she tried hard to find me but I was long gone. I had moved over 1,800 miles away.

Now, I have a fantastic wife, two great children, a very nice income, nice home, and vehicles.

She could have had it all and she blew it.

High standards do not intimidate me in any way nor scare me off. With what I have seen it is more of a crippling weakness than anything. I find it amusing because I know where it will truly get them. I have seen some very pretty women fall this way. I am certain that there are men like this also.

If someone with high standards happens to land it all in one relationship, it's too good to be true. I have seen many failed marriages over this. People with high standards always want more and that's when it all fails.

High standards are fine as long as your list isn't infinite. My wife wanted a man that was hard working, resourceful, attractive, and tough minded. Someone that wouldn't bow down to anyone. She still has me.

My wife is my princess though and I always thought she could have done better than I. I owe her everything for her kindness towards me.

Answer 2

I never thought of having high standards as a negative thing... it means you aren't going to be with someone just because they're there or one thing about them is great while the rest is not particularly attractive to you. As a high school student, I see couples form and break up in weeks because that's what people do- they say, "But he's so HOT!" and then they realize that him being a jerk is not really going to fly. Maybe this applies less to adults.

I guess if you don't like to be alone, high standards make things difficult, but anyone who appreciates both being in a relationship and being single might want to think about being pickier. Not in regards to money, looks, and superficial things, but in who the person IS. Of course, once you're already in love with someone, your standards tend to change to fit them :)

Answer 3

Me, I personally don't have high standards because i'm not a girl in a pinto looking for a "mercedes kind of man" female. I want my expectations to be equal to who I am as a person, And I don't think it's much. I feel that an attractive, hard-working, respectful, honest, and strong minded indivdual who wants the most out of life and doesn't settle or back down isn't much to ask for at all. A lot of men like to pull that "too high of expectations" card only when they feel the slightest amount of intimidation and guilt for not meeting the smallest of expectations of a female they would like to persue. I find that weak and childish, just be frank and say what you feel :) which is why I don't like men anyway, they are much much too stressful...

Answer 4

i don't necessarily have high standards, but i don't like guy's my age (never have), so i may be seen as having excessively high standards.

personality: must be polite and trustworthy; no racism or sexism

looks: flexible, but i do like curly black hair

education/income: at least a bachelor's degree, must be some sort of professional, must be smart enough to discuss world politics and other fun stuff that i enjoy:-)

other: >=25, must speak at least two languages (bonus points if english is not the first language)

but, i actually did find someone who meets all my standards, and i'm still confused as to why he likes me, but he does

Answer 5

Outward "high standards" are a farce. Most people I've met who are this way are some of the most miserable/hollow/bitter/

bankrupt

people on the planet.

Looks, money, high fashion aren't everything when there's no one home inside.

Answer 6

I am long out of the dating scene, however I appreciate women with high standards.

It is very difficult to respect a person who has little respect for herself.  I equate high standards very much with self-respect.

I think, once the barriers are down, a girl with high standards can be as much fun and can have as much fun as any other person and without the guilt that a girl with low standards might feel due to her lack of respect.