Girls/women and masturbation?

Question

i hope this is in the right section. i've done research but it is an issue now because my toddler (girl) humps to go to sleep. i have read that it is normal and i'm sure it is. but here is my dillema. (sp). as a child (all my childhood) i remember humping/masturbating. from young childhood up through adolescence and into adulthood. (all my life). i was raised christian and was made to feel guilty about it. now i know it's normal. but the thing is, i don't want to make my daughter feel guilty about doing it. i have a couple questions. one, is it because of stress that she feels the need to hump? two, it is becoming a habit. if she does this all her life, is this considered abnormal? three, if she is becoming too obsessed with it, how do i handle it without making her feel ashamed? i am being serious, i am not a pervert. so i appreciate serious answers from people who understand and know what i'm talking about here. thanks.

Answer 1

Do what your firxst thought was it is all was right

Answer 2

At this young age, it isn't really necessary to address it at all, unless she's doing it in public.  She does it because she's realized that it's something that makes her feel good.  If you find that she's doing it in places other than the privacy of her bedroom or bathroom, let her know that it is a private thing that girls do by themselves.  It's not for others to see.  Don't scare her.  Just state it as a fact.  She'll accept it.

P.S.- She probably will m********e occasionally throughout her life.  There are no known physical or psychological side effects to this, so I don't see any reason to panic at this point.

Answer 3

I'm not an expert on development in this regards so dig out the salt shaker:

masturbation releases a host of chemicals in the brain....feel good chemicals....dopamine, endorphins, oxytocin....all of which are released naturally through life's course, but when masturbating come out in larger quantities....so the brain stops producing them when this happens regularly because it's getting them another way and it can make it difficult to sleep any other way and it may become "required" in order to sleep and even function.....

I'm NOT a developmental psychologist but I am familiar with the brain in regards to this activity...

I'm thinking that if she was given some night time medicine for a while she could sleep without humping and the chemistry would normalize itsself out and the habit would go away and she would not have to hump to sleep (possibly for the rest of her life)

Answer 4

hi , i want to ask you how you know that she is doing all this ,,,you know human nature is like this that , they learn all bad habit fast , i will not say to m********e is bad , ,,,,,its normal and its not a sin , as i read some of answer give that bible say like this and that,,,,,no where this thing is metion,,,,well on to your Q

you can do is to tell her about masturbation ,that what is this etc,  about habit in this case all people do this, dont take it so serious,

Answer 5

It is normal and natural for children to do this they don't know it's sexual, it just feels nice to them and the trick is, not to point it out to them but if she is doing it publicly then yes it needs to be addressed. I would explain to her there's a time and a place and that's in her bedroom and leave it at that. My friends little girl is going through this at the minute and she is like you about it, she doesn't know how to deal with it, so don't, somethings are a part of growing up and it's important like you have said not to make it an issue and make her feel like it is wrong, it isn't.

Answer 6

This is normal. She's found something that makes her feel real good.

If she starts to do it in public, just gently tell her that what she's doing is a private thing, and that she should only do it in her own room where there's no one else around.

Once she figures out what it's all about, well then she'll realise what's appropriate.

Answer 7

firstly, the good lord said nothing about masturbation. s*x before marriage, yes, but masturbation, no. trust me. five years of bible study.

secondly, she's doing this because it feels good. that's it. your research is right...this is perfectly normal. (mom works for military Child Development Centers...goodness she'd have stories to tell you!)

This is how i'd handle it, and it may not fit how you feel about this but it's the best i can offer you.

This is not an abnormal/dirty thing. If you make your daughter think it's dirty, she's just going to wind up being one of those girls who wind up here talking about how "guilty" she feels when she masturbates. no one wants that! explain to your daughter that there are some things we do by ourselves, and that that's not something you do in public.

lastly, i pretty much did this my whole child hood, then later when i got older. (little gap there) and i promise you your daughter will be fine.

Answer 8

This is a normal phase of child development.  As was said before you wouldn't want to cause possible psychological problems by making her feel that what she was doing was abnormal and dirty.

usually this type of thing works it's self out.  I guess the main thing is not to get overly anxious about this normal phase of development.

Answer 9

What she is doing is natural for some kids to do.  Boys do it, and some girls do, too.   But if you were given guilt trips from christianity about sexual things, it's best for you NOT to instill that guilt into your toddler.  There's nothing harmful or abnormal about it, so forget what the church has told you because they are wrong.  They just control people with fear.  As long as your toddler only does this at home in private, then there is no problem.  If anything, tell her not to do that around other people because it's a private thing.