Give me a reason to keep on living.?

Question

In the past 18 months i have been diagnosed with cancer, went through horrible treatment, my wife left me, I lost my job, I was assaulted and hospitalized. I can't find work. i am losing all hope. My ex turned my children against me. I have two grandchildren I have never met. I am ready to do something drastic. I am reaching out for help.

Answer 1

My, that is a set of trials and tribulations that you have been through in a short amount of time. I think it safe to say that you are stressed about enough. There are many reasons to keep on living. You have named some of them already - children and grand children - that can learn by your example how to deal with challenges that life throws at us.

It seems as if your Spirit is dwindling - along with the will to live. This is the time to get talk with someone well versed in matters of Spirit.

I recommend that you get a big drink of water, walk to any church, temple, synagogue, or parish of your choice - and talk with one of the cloth. Have neither fear nor pride at this meeting. Neither is of value. Express your plight and ask for guidance and help. Not only can this person listen - but may also help you through this rough time in many other ways. Most congregations have caring people with diverse experience and resources.

Next, get involved. Helping others can lift ones spirit quickly. In addition, it takes us out of ourselves and keeps us from thinking thoughts that are of no real value. Give to receive.

Family - Own your own part in the way things now are and do what you can to mend bridges so that the future may be as it should be.  It's amazing what can happen when good seed is planted in fertile soil.

Best wishes.

Answer 2

WE HERE YOU ... NOW GO FOR HELP AT THE DOCTORS PLEASE  

Answer 3

I can't think of any. Dr Kavorkian should be able to refer you to a specialist.

Answer 4

I'm sorry you have been through so much with so little support.  A reason to keep on living, to see the blue sky again, to hear raindrops pattering on your windshield, see beautiful flowers blossoming, perhaps go and do something you have always wanted to do but never had the time before.  I know my answer is cheesy but I'm trying to cheer you up.  Maybe you should call your family doctor and see if he can refer you somewhere tonight to get some medicine for depression or go to the emergency room and let the nurses care for you.  Try to hang in there and hope for the best.  Sometimes miracles do happen

Answer 5

You reallly need to call a crisis helpline. I'd say you should be lucky you have you and that as long as you have yourself, you can pick up your life and survive and go well. Start small, overcome one obstacle at a time.  

Answer 6

everything may be bad right now but you don't ever know. tomorrow you may meet the woman that makes you forget your horrible exs, you may be hired for  your dream job, your children could realize that their mother is tearing them away from one of the most important and valuable people in their lives.

plus, your children don't want to know their father gave up.  

Answer 7

Well Terrence welcome to LIFE!  SOunds like you had more than your fair share of adversity and pain in recent months but you have lived to tell about it and hopefully have learned to grow because of it.  Life ain't over til it's over and as long as you are breathing there is hope, love, laughter, another person to care about, another soul to touch and help another day to be better, stronger, truer and become MORE of what I believe GOD intended us to become.  Trust me I understand to a large degree what you might be feeling. Sometimes life just sucks and I wish I could just NOT EXIST too.  I have never wanted to END MY LIFE because I LOVE LIVING tho - but I would want to run away from my life many times.

But no matter who we are we can't escape heartship and difficulty and I've found no matter how horrible we might have it there is always someone who has it worse.  I have also found that the ONLY WAY to rise above such moments in life is to reach out in service to others and to stop dwelling on SELF and our own pain and problems.  THAT helps no one.  Since I also believe that upon leaving this life we will be accountable to our Heavenly Father who loves us more than we can understand - and we will face Him and He will ask us WHAT we did with our lives, who have we become, whee are our hearts and what have we learned and done with all the gifts, talents and abilities He gave us and how did we help someone else when we were going through trials and troubles ourselves?  I for one do not want to be the one who GAVE UP.  That is sometimes the only thing that keeps me going and I hope you have a small seed of faith that maybe helps you keep going to.  IT WILL be worth it one day.  After all - He didn't say it would be easy - only that it would be WORTH IT!  I trust that is so.  Good luck, hang in there and things can only look up for you!

Answer 8

i am sorry to hear all this  but this too shall pass . hang in there and think positive .

Answer 9

all i can say is at one point i thought things couldn't get worse.but they did.but then there came a point where things started getting better.you just have not got to that point yet.hey i felt just like you once.saying the same things.but life does get better,be patient.trust me.

Answer 10

The question is, what do you want?  If you want nothing, then giving up on life is a perfectly acceptable alternative to doing SOMETHING with your life, like trying to meet your grandchildren.  That sounds like regret to me.  Maybe trying to get back together with your wife, unless she left you for good reason.  There is always an option in life, but only if you are willing to go out on a limb for it.

Answer 11

It sounds like you have really been struggling. ending your life is not the answer. Sometimes things get ALOT worse before they get better. Just hold on, please call a help line. You need to talk to someone.

YOU MATTER!  

Answer 12

Hugs. :( I hope you pull yourself up by the bootstraps tonight. Call your doctor first thing in the morning and talk with him/her. Google some psychologists in your area and make some calls tomorrow. Tonight listen to your favorite song and eat something yummy, call a relative, go visit your neighbors... I think things will get better for you with time. It all seems impossibly overwhelming right now... but you will get though this difficult time and then maybe you can help others to do the same?

Answer 13

If you need someone to communicate with my email is [e-mail].

Dont do anything drastic. seek help.

Answer 14

Hi, I am a cancer survivor. At the age of 23 I was diagnosed with uterine cancer. I was devastated. I had two children to raise on my own. No help from anyone. I had a hysterectomy at that age and that meant no more children. This whole thing devastated me.Here I was alone two children no husband and also no where to go no one to turn to. I had my treatments. I am not trying by any means to turn you to God but I turned to the church. I received the help that I needed both mentally and spiritually. Today I have two grown children and six grandchildren. I'm not saying every day is a good day, but I never gave up. Please think about what you are doing. You have something very precious, your life. Don't think of the worst, Think of what you have put into your life, Are you really willing to throw it all away because things just got a little tough. The worst is behind you. Your treatment is over. Your children will always remember that you are there father and that you were always there for them. they will form there own opinions. Please don't give up. Go talk to someone. You were a worth while person yesterday and you are a worthwhile person today. Things do get better, I promise you that.

Answer 15

Hello

I'm sorry! You sound like a survivor to me

If you made it here you can make it to a crisis line, Friends house or website that inspires or empowers.....Your not alone~Pray!

Best Wishes and Good Luck

Answer 16

Keep your head up.

There are so many things in life to enjoy.

Bad times never last forever.

In the meantime phone the doc or call a crisis helpline, please. There are many people who care about your wellbeing and are trained to help with situations like the one you are in.

And remember others have felt like this and have fully recovered. I was one suicidal but made a conscience decision to turn my life around and I now live an content and fulfilling life. And so can you

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Answer 17

Your cancer could go into remission, your wife can stay gone, you don't need her. Once healthy enough, you can find another job. In the mean time, see about filing for some type of disability, temporary maybe? If you can remember your attacker, see what can be done about prosecuting your assailant. Work on talking to your children. Do something drastic by picking up the phone and calling a crisis intervention line. You need to talk to a professional. Do you have other family members or friends with whom you can talk? What if you're granted more time on this earth? What would you do with it? Don't let your last days on this planet be filled with misery. Get help.

Answer 18

it always gets better, no matter how bad it seems now.what u need is a support system, either therapy, or a self help group of people who are also hurting.when your down and out and hurting if u would just call on jesus he would help u.u will come out of this, and things will get better, but u will need some help to get your life back on the right track. bad comes to all of us, but if we choose to hang in there and wait patiently things will change.

Answer 19

Sorry for all you have gone through, what you are currently going through and what you will go through at least for a while.  Life tends to cycle and I am guessing this is the lowest point you have ever been.  As a survivor of suicide myself (my son took his life at age 20), I can tell you that help is out there.  You have to find the strength within yourself to at least ask for help and that is what you are doing. Call a suicide hot line and talk to someone or reach out for support from a family member.  It takes more courage to live than it does to die and I hope you choose to fight the good fight and work toward a better life for yourself.  Good things are sure to come your way and the tides in your life will turn more positive.  My most sincere wishes for you and hope things improve very soon.

Answer 20

Religion will help you... go to your church. Someone there will help you out.