Give parents something for paying for wedding?

Question

If the brides parents are paying for a big wedding that is going to cost over $30,000, what is the proper etiquette after the wedding. Are you supposed to give your parents a certain amount and how much?

Answer 1

The other posters are right on about a sentimental and thoughtful gift that is far more important then the price tag.

When the mic is being passed around and people are toasting during the reception make sure to thank them.

Best coming from the groom.

Something like:

"Last but not least I would like to thank my new in-laws for making this wonderful wedding and reception possible ."

Answer 2

I bought my mom a white gold and diamond necklace that is engraved "Love You Mom" on the back.

I bought my dad a digital photo frame because he LOVES to take pictures.

I spent $100 on each.

It is up to you.  You should get them something as a Thank You for all they've done.  Something personal and sentimental is perfect.

EDIT:  I only mentioned the amount I spent because that was part of the question.  I did not set an amount (high or low), but chose gifts that I knew they both would appreciate and they happened to be about the same.

Answer 3

Your wedding day is significant to them in so many ways so try to remember how important the day is to THEM.  Try to put yourself in their shoes because the greatest gift you can give them will be one that is thoughtful of that and sentimental.  You should, at the very least, give them a sappy thank you card and letter saying how grateful you are to them, not only for the wedding but all those things you've always wanted to say thank you for.  Now is the time to do that.  Your wedding is the day you start to move from being their little girl to being this grown, beautiful woman who will one day have a family of her own.  It will be very emotional for them because they've put so much of their love & energy into making you the  person you are today.  If I were you, I'd make them a very sentimental gift.  That will mean more to them than if you spent $100 on a gift!

Answer 4

What I think is that you should give them something special and unexpected that goes beyond money. Something that they could use or enjoy for several years. I would recommend you one of those personalized photo art on a canvas (a special picture of the 3 of you), one of those custom photo mosaic ( I found this link : http://www.designamosaic.com/samples) or even a subscription to one of those wine or ice cream of the month clubs. Something special and unexpected that comes from your heart not from your wallet.