Giving Me A Child Before He Dies..?

Question

The other day me and my boyfriend were having a conversation about death and how we would hate to live without one another and I said to him, if he was diagnosed and had a certain amount of time to live, I would ask him to get me pregnant before he died so I could carry his soul and name on as a token of love for him. This made him get teary eyed and I was wondering if you thought it was a nice gesture or really weird. I love him so much so I would consider doing this for him. I'm really confused now although he's being so nice to me over the last two days..how would other men react?

Answer 1

i think its cool so you always have a little piece of him in the child

Answer 2

what an uplifting conversation.

Answer 3

That's Nice, but it's a Long Life and You'll Probably Have More Children...!!

Answer 4

Sounds like you are gonna off him.  Make sure that he at least lives until the baby is born so you get everything...muah haha!  JK  It is is VERY sweet gesture.  

Answer 5

I'm in a committed long term relationship right now, and I think I would appreciate the sentiment if my girlfriend said that to me.  If she had said it when our relationship was more casual, I would have still appreciated the sentiment, but would wonder why she was planning so far ahead.

If he's acting nice you may have genuinely touched him with your words.  I would suggest not trying to prod the subject more, as the subject is a little morbid and not very fun to talk about.  If he has more to say on it, he'll probably bring it up on his own.

Answer 6

have you and your boyfriend considered prozac?

Answer 7

I think it's a great and wonderful idea. He's being nice to you because now he realizes for real, how much you actually love him.

Answer 8

100% acceptable . my mother died knowing my wife was pregnant with our son , she was so proud to know the family name would carry on .  

Answer 9

Awwww......yeah, that's a awsome gesture!  

Answer 10

Thats a lovely gesture hopefully he would live long enough to see his child born and could die knowing there would always be part of him with you here and your child would be born out of true love and would always be truely loved

Answer 11

Well, it's a nice thing to say - I would get teary eyed too. He knows that you really care, so that's why he's being nice.

I wouldn't try to think about things like that too much though, unless it really happens.

Answer 12

so sweet

Answer 13

A bit unfair to the child,coming into the world because his father was about ready to die...

Answer 14

That was so sweet of you to say. It's not weird at all. That probably the kindest gesture he's ever heard in his life! Honestly, he should be happy you said that. Also, that's the best idea I've ever heard if you are in love and you have a certain amount of time to live...And I think it depends on the guy. If they are sensitive and listen to what their girlfriend says then they wouldn't mind. I'm sure your boyfriend can now definetly tell you are serious and in love with him!

Good job!

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Answer 15

you are nuts

Answer 16

???????? okay that is just sick...............

Answer 17

first this sounds like a teeny bopper question. your to young to be thinking in these terms. two weeks from now you wont remember his name.

Answer 18

Oh my gosh thats sooo sweet!!!

i have actually heard of men dying and then their sperm being collected and frozen so the wife can have a son with her passed away husband

I think its such a lovely gesture!

i would definately consider this too. awwwww  

Answer 19

Thats loverly :)

What a nice lass you are!

Answer 20

I think that my boyfriend would have cried too, but hes always been a bit emotional. I think most men would think that was a kind thing you said and thought you were quite serious with the relationship to say something so real.

Answer 21

i agree with ken, in the aspect that its unfair to have a child for the sole reason because your boyfriend is sick. you should have children when you feel your ready, and planned. but then again i see where you are comming from, it sounds very cute to me, how you could carry on his soul. i'm sure it showed him that you really are in love with him. you guys seem really happy. =) it depends on the man i guess, on how he would react. since you too love eachother, it's different.

Answer 22

yah, ok. have you ever considered that if his parents knew for sure that the kid was his and that its the only thing left of him that they just might take you to court to take it away from you? it happens in this country every day. single parents who have to work so much to support their children seldom have time for their children and because of that they loose in court to retired, financially secure grandparents. you should really think about that.

Answer 23

i will say thanks ..but no thanks because a kid needs a dad  

Answer 24

That's cute :) Alot of women actually do that. I know of people who have had their husbands sperm kept while they go to war so if something was to happen they could have their child.

Answer 25

First off why are you thinking about death? and on the other hand you could always carry his soul in your heart... I understand that you love him but IF HE DIED i am sure one day you would move on. Ya the thought was nice..but maybe you should try being a little more realistic.