Giving a speech at his daughter’s wedding?

Question

I was wondering if it’s appropriate and common for the bride’s dad to give a lil speech at his daughter’s wedding. If it’s right, when and where it’s supposed to be held? What kind of speech is it? I mean what’s usually said in this? Please I need some advice!

Thanx y’all in advance!

Answer 1

I attended two wedding this summer where the Dads gave a speech.



Wedding 1.  The Father of the Bride walked his daughter down the isle.  When they got to the altar, the Pastor said "Who gives this woman.."  The Dad said "Her Mother and I".  Then he joined his daughters hand with the groom's hand.  The Pastor said "Ron (the Dad) has a few words he would like to share with Caitlin and Jeremy".  Then he gave a nice 1 minute speech about marriage.  He didn't have a microphone or anything, he just spoke while talking to his daughter and son-in-law.  Most of the people heard it because the church wasn't too big and he spoke up.

Wedding 2.  The Father of the Groom gave a nice, funny, touching speech before we ate dinner at the rehersal.  The Father of the Bride gave a speech first, then the Father of the Groom, then the Best Man said a toast.  It was very nice to hear the fathers talk, because when the Groomsmen talk, it's usually a young kid fumbling for what to say.  The Dad's went into a brief history of their family--"Jonathan, growing up in ___, you remember..." It was good to hear about the couple, and it gave me, as a guest, something to talk about while we ate our dinner.  

  

Answer 2

I do believe it's appropriate, especially if you have something heartfelt and poignant to say.  Talk about your daughter, and the way you remember her in the past, and talk about your hopes for the future, wishing her and her new husband well.  Most importantly, make sure you welcome your son-in-law to the family!

Answer 3

My father gave a welcome speech to our guests & then said a few words about us in a toast.  This was done at the beginning of dinner - after the first dances, but before the other toasts & dinner service.

ADD: The groom's father (or mother) often gives a toast at the rehersal dinner as they are typcially the hosts of that event.

Answer 4

If the bride and groom are OK with it, toasts are usually planned to happen as the main course are served.  Traditionally, the best man and MOH are the only ones required to give a speech, but if the father of the bride wants to say a little something, that is fine if it's OK with the couple.  Sometimes the bride and groom themselves give little speeches.  It all depends on what they want.  But definitely, the toast should be a heartfelt speech wishing his daughter and new son-in-law all the best.  Maybe you could tell a cute little story about your daughter when she was a little girl- just make sure it's not an embarrassing story that will mortify her at her own wedding!  Most of all, keep it short and sweet- nobody likes a tearful, rambling dad.  Oh, and try to avoid any cocktails before toasting her- many a bridal party member has unintentionally embarrassed the couple and themselves after having one too many helpings of "liquid courage" before their toast.  Just be yourself, and good luck!

Answer 5

The fathers toast is generally given during the rehearsal dinner, and of course he should say something at the wedding party before your first dance.

Answer 6

I've never seen it done, but that doesn't mean it can't happen.  If the dad wants to say something, let him.  I'd suggest doing it after the best man / maid of honor speeches so you're not interrupting anything else later on.  You don't want to have 30 minutes of speeches but if other people want to say something, give them a chance to.

Answer 7

Usually there is a toast, you could make your speech in the "allotted" speech making time :)

Answer 8

If your drunk it won't matter. lol