Giving my future step daughter a gift at the ceremony?

Question

Need some help! I would love to give my future step daughter a gift at the wedding ceremony. I was thinking a piece of jewlery. When me and my fiance say our wedding vows I also want to say some vows to her... that I will love and cherish her forvever too. Im not even sure if my church will let me do that but if i can i want to! Shes 8, will be 9 when we get married. I want to give her a ring but shes so little (I would put the ring on a necklace but not sure thats a safe idea) Soooooo what would you give her? A ring for when shes older or a ring that will fit her finger now?

Thanks again!!!! :)

Answer 1

I agree with Jess.  The wedding ceremony should be about you, two, only.  At the reception, give her something with a little speech.  A charm necklace-type item would be good.

Answer 2

Swaroski crystals

Answer 3

I'd go with a locket. I have one that I received as a child and it was my "something old" at my own wedding.

Rings are too easy for children to lose.  

Answer 4

I would give a necklace that would fit her now and forever. RIngs are so tricky, if you get her one for now it won't last long. If you get her one for later, she may not be as excited about it and you still may need to get it resized.

If your church doesn't let you do it, I would just do it at the reception. Present her with the gift and make the public promise. She should still be happy.

Answer 5

I went to a wedding where they didn't do anything during the ceremony with the step children, but the first speeches at the reception were the bride and groom giving their step daughters a necklace and telling them that they'll always be there for them etc. I thought it was really nice to include them and it was also good that they were able to focus just on them as a couple during the ceremony.

If you get her a ring she could wear it on a bigger finger now and change it to another finger as she gets older or put it on a chain to wear around her neck. Otherwise a necklace or bracelet might be a nice idea too.

Answer 6

I just don't get it when people say that the wedding is about the two of you...it is about you becoming a family!  I am proud to hear you want her to be a part of it, so many kids get pushed aside and in this day and age of blended families...kids need to know they are a part of it!  I would either go with a ring on a chain, then when she gets old enough to wear the ring (I would go with like a size 5 or 6. If she can't wear it now on special occasions she will be able to wear it as a teen and they can be re sized as she gets older) or a necklace she will be able to wear all her life. That would be very meaningful.  I don't see why any church would not allow it. I think it would be great for you to say something special to her as after your vows. The minister can easily add it in.  And maybe after you kiss your bride...he can even say "Let me introduce to you Mr. and Mrs Xxxxx and family!

Answer 7

I am doing the same for my step daughter.  And we are presenting her with a ruby (birthstone) necklace.  Something that will always fit and mean something special to her.