Giving ride to a co-worker?

Question

This co-worker, came up to me asking if I could drop her off my way, and I said ok. And now without asking if its ok with me, she asked me to drop her off at her place and pick her up as well everyday. She offered to pay her share of gas money. But I dont even want her money, I dont like giving her rides, becasue its inconviniet for me to go to her door everyday. The other habit that she has is that she shuts my door car sooooo hard, that I dont even know what to say to her. I mean she is a much older lady, and I dont want to be disrespectful, any suggestions?

Answer 1

She could come to your house.. if you live in the same town.. and she is a co-worker.. it doesn't matter that she is older but he works with you in the same company so it's not out of the way for you to take her to work and you should let her pay and if you tell her in a friendly way that she should please close the door gently .. I am sure she would do that.. it would make sense if she lives nearby and works in the same building that you take her to work even if she has to walk to your house as long as she lives in the same town.. then i think it would be polite and normal to offer a colleague a ride and she can pay her share of the petrol money.. and she can learn not to slam doors..

Answer 2

With the price of gas it may not be a bad idea, but if you don't want to do it then don't force yourself to do it.  I've been with a suspended license for an extended period of time and learned ways to make do on my own, I took the bus, rode my bike, walked, rain or shine and I live in FL so the weather is real unpredictable, public transportation is disorganized and unreliable, but I survived.

As far as slamming the doors go, I'm sure if you approached her and told her nicely she'd be understanding...though somehow I suspect that if she corrected that you still wouldn't want to drive her.

You aren't obligated to take her anywhere so she might try to guilt trip you, but I'm sure there are other ways for her to get to work

Answer 3

With gas prices these days, let her pay for ALL the gas (you're covering insurance, maintenance.etc).  

Insist that she doesn't slam the door because it will cost her $5 for every slam.

Be glad that you are helping an older person to work while sparing the environment another car on the road.  

This sounds like a win-win situation to me.  

Assuming the inconvenience isn't too out of the way.

Answer 4

I've read most of the answers and don't disagree with them ... but I thought of another way ... Tell her it isn't so much the fuel but also the wear and tear on your car...

Suggest to her (there's a little time required for this plan) that one week you will pick her up and the next week you will drive to her house and then from her house she will drive.... and see how she likes to be the one that's expected to do something ...

OR ... start arriving a little late ( not late enough to get you into trouble) or too early .. don't be reliable..

I would hate to be in the same shoes as you .. as I'd feel the same.. It's easy to make up ways to get out of it .. when It isn't me that has too.

Answer 5

Every time she asks you for a ride or something, just tell her you are sorry but you can't......just like that, I know it's hard to do, but remember is neccesary. Also think that she has NO problem bugging you, then why you should feel bad saying,

"I am sorry but I can't"...pure and simple. If she asks again, you say again: I am sorry but I have errands to run, eventually she will get  the idea. Don't be weak, my friend!!

Don't feel bad, you are not doing anything wrong, you just simply saying no to things. We need to learn to say no, because then you will have big deal of stress and you will start having health problems.

IF this girl gets upset ot don't talk to you anymore...is HER problem not yours...OK?

Answer 6

Tell her you moved across town,sometimes its better to lie

Answer 7

If you don't mind giving her a ride to work, tell her to meet you outside of her home every morning. It's not rude. If she rode the bus, the driver wouldn't knock on her door. Secondly, tell her that something is wrong with the glass in the passenger side door. Ask her not to shut it hard because you are afraid that it will fall out or break. She may be forcing you  to give her  a ride because she really has no other way to work. On the other hand, some people are just rude and don't care about your inconvenience. I would try talking with her first. If after a week she doesn't respond, just let her know you can't drop her of because you are going to the gym or something. She'll find another ride. Good luck!

Answer 8

Be honest. Don't try to give her some false excuse because since you two are co-workers it will cause some unwanted drama. After your next ride say something like hey can i talk to you about something. Say that giving her rides has been a big inconvience for you and that you hope she won't be to upset. That you have a lot of things to do in the morning and you are worried about the effects of your car, since now a days everything is expensive. And if she takes it badly tell her that it was her who is being insensitive because she automatically assumed you would be giving her rides.

Answer 9

Why not get her share money and tell her frankly that she should be on time at the gate and avoid shutting the cars door so hard.

Answer 10

Just tell her that she needs to made other arrangements to get to work.That it inconveniences you too much to take her to and from work.This is not disrespectful of you.She was the one that was disrespectful to you.

Answer 11

Tell her you have to go to grandma's house to feed her cat after work on Tesdays and Thursdays, Get auntie Ellens groceries and Depends on Monday's and Wednesdays. And you go to the BAR on Friday, so that was your very last day you can help her out.

Answer 12

This is when a white lie may be good. Tell her you won't be coming her way any more before work because you've started working out in the mornings, or taking a class. Then help her find someone she can carpool with, if possible.

Answer 13

even though, she offers gas money, its still won't compensate for the burden to wait to pick her up and drop her off. honestly, just let her know what's up. i wouldn't recommend lying because it will catch up to you, trust me i know. just be real with her and tell her that you're going out of your way or its just too much for you or whatnot. sometimes, they offer the gas money because they know you will turn it down.

Answer 14

oh my,

I once worked with someone who did that too, and yes, she was old enough to be my mom.

Make something up, Tell her you have to be on the other side of town before and after workd or something like that.