God someone help im being overruned by my guy friends!?

Question

a bunch of my guy friends have started to pay more attention to me and i dont mean in the im just a friend way but the im a friend with benefits way and its so hard to pick between them all; they're all nice, smart, sweet, (hot), play sports with me, let me be me, they dont see me as just a girl who hits like a guy or a girl who luvs to play football they see me as something more and its a bit disturbing that i find it exciting.

i need help and quick the guys are stating not to talk to each other and fight! >.<

Answer 1

ya ya ya isabela ... its not true ... the answer is like this ... first of all ... what kinda girl wants a FWB ??? listen ... fwb&#039;s can be harmful ... caz u might fall for them while they r just interested in the benefits ... and yes its obvious that u will lose sum of those cool friends once u directly reject them and pick sumone from the pack ... so in my point of view u talk with them personally and and share ur emotions and say why u like so much but not really looking to go FWB with him right now ... caz simply he is more of a valuable friend to u than just lose him by going into more intimate sumthing ... u can do that to all of them except the on u want to go FWB with ... if there is any personal choice amongst ...

Lol ... enjoy the attention while u have them ... and try to sort out things as soon as possible caz once the guyz start realizing that they all are losing themselves on a girl ... they would be over u ... and u wud be left all alone ... lol ...so i suggest pick one ... grab him by his throat ... and tell the others to get it over ... u r just too true friends to be FWB ...  

Answer 2

Well, you shouldn&#039;t have to pick if you don&#039;t want to! If you like them as just friends make sure they know. And if you like this attention.. well, enjoy it while it lasts! lol :)  

Answer 3

I don&#039;t know how old you are, sweetie, but yeah, when guys think of you as more than just a friend, it is exciting.  $h!t, I&#039;m in my 50&#039;s, and when my girl Angelface started thinking of me like that, I loved it.

Since it&#039;s making you uneasy (despite being exciting) then you have just got to set these fellas straight.  There&#039;s no other way to do it, except to tell them simply and directly that they are all your friends (without benefits), and you prefer it that way.  You also have to tell them that you know they are all good friend with each other, and it&#039;s creeping you out to think that you are coming between them.

They may not listen....the hormones are probably talking louder than you ever could....but once you tell them that, then you have to stand by it.  &quot;No means no,&quot; and if you really want to stay friends with all these guys, you can&#039;t give them any reason to think that you&#039;re going choose among them.  And then don&#039;t, no matter how tempting it might be....and if they are as hot as you claim, it is going to be more tempting that you could ever imagine, but hang in there.

A few of them may have been thinking of you in the &quot;with benefits&quot; terms all along, and you may lose them along the way, but they are probably a headache you don&#039;t need.  The ones who are really your friends will get the message, respect your decision, and (as long as you are consistent with your signals) be comfortable with the way things are.

Which is not to say that somewhere down the road, you might not develop a closer relationship with one of them....but if that&#039;s to happen, let it happen in it&#039;s own good time, and because of your personalities, interests, etc.

You really have a good thing going here.  Being able to be close friends with the opposite s*x is a great thing.  Over the years, many of my best and closest friends (without benefits) have been, and still are, female.  I&#039;m glad of it, and you should be too.

Don&#039;t let their hormones ruin it, OK?

Answer 4

Get them all together and tell them you don&#039;t feel comfortable with them fighting over you. If you really do want to go out with one of them, be prepared for the awesome group of friends you have to disperse. They&#039;ll feel rejected and most likely get angry at you.

The only way to stop this from happening is not dating any of them, and letting them know that you only want to be friends.

But thats your decision to make.