Going crazy alone?

Question

I feel like I am going crazy. Beond my control I am now all alone with my 3 children. I was living far away and I had to move and now I have no friends and my kids don't listen( they and used to their dad and he had to go away for an undisclosed amount fo time) and I am having trouble with them.I have 2 boys 8 and 3 how love their dad alot and a newborn who dosen't know cause she is only 3 months and daddy has been gone for 4. Just need a few kind words I guess I really don't know what I want.maybe I just need to vent.

Answer 1

Take off your belt for the 8 year old.

A good ol spankin will help make people listen. Lol.

Worked on me!

Maybe you could get a nanny and just go out to a spa or something for a day to regroup.

You probably just need some me time because that's a lot of kids. I get flustered just babysitting my 3 year old brother for a few hours much less 24/7.

Good luck.

All will be well ^-^

Answer 2

What Jen 981 just said!  We are all there for you - most of us have gone through stuff like this, even if we're not doing it right now!

Try your best to keep that attitude positive.  You can't choose what happens in life, but you CAN choose how you react to it.  

So, for your sake and the children's sake...plaster a smile on your face and just keep going and trying and living and loving those kids and yourself.  Take your kids to playgrounds & museums and find other Moms in the area with kids and get together as a Moms group and  that will help so much!  

Try to find every free activity there is available in your area and be friendly and smile at other parents because they are probably going through some similar things!

Best of luck!!!!

Answer 3

I feel your pain. Im stuck home all day no friends in the area with a 9yr old 2yr old and 1yr old. Ever heard of cafemom.com? You can meet mothers in your area or just online join social groups etc. It's something to help keep your sanity and get great advice specifically from people dealing with your same problems.

Answer 4

Hang in there. You are doing YOUR job. Do it the best you can. Put the kids to bed early and rest up. I am sure you are doing a great job. Remember you are Never alone. There are millions of people out there. I am sure your kids are stressed from the move and daddy being away, just as you are. Try to get some time to yourself. Do something fun with them tomorrow. Enjoy them and your life. Hang in there. They need you and you need them.

Answer 5

Right it is hard being on your own.  If there is a park near by take the kids and you may meet up with other parents of young kids to talk to.  And playing in the park might wear the older 2 out so they go to bed easier.  See if the libray has any kid friendly programs you could join.  They are usually free.

Answer 6

Yes you do need to vent. You don't have any family anywhere that can be an good outlet for you and help you get thru this difficult time?

Is you husband in trouble or in the service? Either way that can be hard when one of the parents leaves. I am sure your kids are just acting out. Give it some time. Just try to hang in there- give them lots of love and positive attention. Try to meet some Moms around the area.

Of course you don't know what you want. Is the Father gonna be back into the picture at all in time? If not then you need to learn now how to get along without him. Thsi can be so hard. Remember breath.

Answer 7

I hear you there. I can't even begin to imagine what you are going through right now. Try meeting some neighbors. Go to the park ~ the boys can run & play & wear themselves out while you & the baby relax. I know it's hot but it sure beats being caged at home for all of you & you just might meat a few mommy friends & the kids could get a few play dates as well. The beach is nice for the kids too. ~ anything outdoors & free will help with the loneliness your feeling.