Going golfing with my ex's Dad.....?

Question

My ex'd Dad called and invited me to go golfing with him tomorrow. Is it wrong if I go? Him and I have always had a great relationship and after all, he is the Grandfather of my children and what happened between his daughter and I had nothing to do with him. He knows I'm an avid golfer and has been kicking around the idea for weeks.....looking for some pointers on his drives. Anyway, what do you think...should I go?

Answer 1

Go for it.

My boyfriend's ex-in-laws call him up and invite him to dinner and other events quite often.  He says even though their daughter cheated on him, they had nothing to do with it.  He was friends with them before he even met their daughter.  I think they make it a point to not have the daughter around when he is there.  But, he forgave her a long time ago and talks with her every now and again.

I was definately floored and it seemed so wrong. But whatever. Have fun.

Answer 2

You bet you should.  Don't be too surprised though when the outing takes a mysterious turn.  And when he is having you dig your own shallow grave out in a desolate timber somewhere, you can snicker to yourself with the smug knowledge that comes from knowing all of the degrading things you did to his little girl.  What ever you do, don't cry or grovel like a little beotch to have your life spared.  I find that SO annoying.

Answer 3

its no biggy go have fun your daughters will love it, you need the family connection with him regardless...  

Answer 4

Absolutely!!!

Enjoy!!!!

Answer 5

I think it depends on ALOT of factors:

1) If you're currently in a serious r'ship with a woman, then I would NOT go if the situation made her feel uncomfortable in any way.  It's not worth jeaopardizing a promising r'ship to hang on to something from the past.  

2) If you're not over your ex and are hoping to hang on to something by still having a r'ship with her father, then I would NOT go.  It's not healthy.  You have to truly be over your ex.

I know it's no longer your responsibility to be considerate of your ex's feelings but your ex father-in-law still should be!  If I was his daughter, I'm not sure I'd be comfortable w/ the 2 of you being chummy....especially if it was a nasty divorce.  It's up to you.  Like I said, it could be harmless depending on a number of things.

Answer 6

No i dont think theres anything wrong with it..  i think my ex in laws liked me better than their son!  

Answer 7

No reason you can't be friends with your ex FIL.  It's good for the kids to see some stability.

Answer 8

Yes you certainly aren't doing anything wrong. But your comfort can be influenced by whether or not you are re-married. Does your wife feel threatened by the relationship? If so, it may take some work on your part to help her understand that your friendship doesn't have to end with this man just because of a divorce.

Answer 9

Why shouldn't you?

If he invited you,  GO!

Answer 10

Absolutely go...it shows maturity.  Have fun!

Answer 11

Sounds like a decent guy who still likes you.  Why not?  My bet is that he's been struggling with this request and finally found the nerve to call you up.  

Grip, stance and alignment!  

Might be a good idea NOT to flirt with the cart girl, however!

Answer 12

go and have a great time!

Answer 13

Sure, why not? Go for it.

Answer 14

of course go. just because something happened between your ex and you doesnt mean you cant still have a great relationship with him. like you said he IS the grandpa of your kids, which means hes ALWAYS going to be in your lifee. go have fun, and plus by him calling YOU, means he stil wants you in his life. :)