Going off to college, leaving friends behind.?

Question

I'm about to go off to college. I'd just like any motivational or spirit-lifting advice anybody can offer.

I'm not afraid about leaving home or going to a big university and being around a lot of strangers. There's only one thing that's getting to me, really bothering me. My best friend, who's practically lived at my house for the past 8 or 9 years, is not going to the same college as me. I'm hoping he'll transfer there in a year or two once he's done with his basic general ed stuff, but who knows.

Anyway, I'm about as straight as you could get, but I'm going to miss this guy. I assume I'll still see him on breaks and over summers, etc., but things will never be the same I'm afraid.

Answer 1

Well, you'll make new friends at school, but they can never take the place of the old ones you have at home. I was worried about this too when I went off to school last year, but this summer I've been hanging out with them just like in the old days, and have even spent more time and become closer with unexpected old friends.

It's hard to leave a best friend, but if you guys are as close as you sound, you'll take the time to stay in touch when away, and reuniting during breaks will be all the sweeter.

Answer 2

college will be much better than home trust me and you will make new friends and meet lots of girls .

Answer 3

You will still be able to see each other on  holidays, vacations etc.  This space will allow you both to grow and meet new people..don't worry, good friends never let you down..

Answer 4

My older sister is going through the same thing right now. I suppose the most spirit-lifting thing I can tell you is that even though you are correct in that things will be different between you and your friend. There is no denying it. But just keep your head up. Notice everything going on around you. College is where people meet best friends for life, wives, husbands, mentors, mentees, enemies, and so many more people that really help them become who they are by the prime of their lives. Leaving people behind is hard but it helps shape your personality and strenghthen you to be strong in loss and pain. Think more about what you will gain than what you will loose an you will see that leaving your friends is a small price to pay for all that you get out of the new relationships you will get at college. Good luck!

Answer 5

Sometimes a little space is good since it would allow you both to grow as individuals.  It sounds like you guys will always be good friends.  Take this time apart to explore your own interest.  It'll open up new worlds for both you and your friend.  :)  

Answer 6

I am so excited for you.  I remember being just exactly where you are and all the feelings that go with it.

These are the things I have learned:

The majority of friends I have now I met in or after college.

The friends I had before college, some I did not stay close to but those I did, even if we haven't talked for months, when I talk to them it seems like I saw them yesterday.

Things do change but it will be for the better, trust me.