Good Friends owe me money!?

Question

hello everyone,

i am a student who studies abroad and recently i have a little bit problem with a friend of mine. We werent really closed with each other for past years however nowadays he seems like being more nice to me and he called me his younger brother. almost in every weekend he always invited me to go somewhere where we could chill and i can see that he is kind of a person who is belong to a rich family. he owns a car here though he is also an international student. One day, he invited me to go to another city and he said as if he will be really dissapointed if i insisted his offer to go with him. then when we arrived in the city he brought me to one of the most classy shopping complex and he told me that we would only window-shopping around. all of sudden he saw one product, very good one, with a very high price , he said he wants to buy it . then at the counter, he told me, "ooh man, i forgot to put money on my bank, could u please pay them for me then i will pay you back" , i said ok that wont be a problem coz i trusted him alot. then he seems nicer to me and tried to impress me by buying a drink for me, which not really compatible to the price i paid for him. then after we finished our day he sended me home. well now and till now, i havent received my money yet. I know it seems hard for me to ask him coz he is so nice to me, and he also spent his money for gasses to bring us to our destination but the money he owed me is a very large sums of money which i could get after 10 hours of working.. and he should understand me that i m young and a foreign student which not comes from a really rich family as him. so now i feel confused to ask him . if i dont ask him, i dont really afford to pay for my telephone bills and for my residence permit in this country.. but if i think logically he also spent a lot for bringing me with him but as i already mentioned he is the one who really persuade me to go with him. but i also love him as a brother but i really need the money he owed me.

so please help me folks,..:-(

Answer 1

ok

Answer 2

Sorry to hear what has happened to you. But I think that he tricked you. He had this plan and he just used you to his advantage.

Answer 3

You asked him for nothing, he offered it of his own free will,I do not think that because I "treat" someone they automatically owe it to me to do the same for me. I feel you were well and truly conned and your "friend" set out to do this from the time he invited you to go along with him.  You are within your rights to ask him for your money back because you have expenses that have to be paid, ask him outright, you will probably find that he has another excuse waiting, I only hope for your sake that I am wrong.

Answer 4

send him a reminder, but don't make it obvios. If you guys are really good friends then if you ask he should understand  

Answer 5

I had to learn this lesson the hard way too.  I recently loan this person 10,000 dollars because they were in a trouble or something.  They have never repaid me but I know they weren't going to repay at all.  It is a hard lesson but this taught me a lot about myself and my ex-friend.

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Answer 6

okay i think you are being too nice but you said he is like a brother so this is what you should do : just ask him "hey wats up i am just curious do you have my money you owe me " if he says no ask him a week since you last asked him.

Answer 7

People who borrow money will get by with not paying you back if they can. Friendship is one thing but business is another. Explain to him that you really enjoyed the trip to shop and you don't mind loaning him the money to purchase things when he hasn't the money at hand but you are in need of your money for living expenses and would appreciate it if he could pay you back. be prepared to loose a friend tho because a lot of people (who are use to getting what they want) will do anything to get what they want. You say he payed for the trip. Did he really or was this someone else's dollar he borrow? Even tho you respect your friendship, it is best never to loan a friend money for any reason. With friends it doesn't stay a loan, it becomes a gift.

Your right, he ask you to go, you didn't bargain for the trip so you shouldn't feel guilty. The problem is he used your friendship to get what he wanted, now you use your friendship to get your money back.

Answer 8

The day you lent the money out... you should have written off either this friend or the money... NEVER lend money to friends...

Answer 9

Well you have been nice to this friend of yours.

But you know that you cannot afford such a friendship especially when you are just a student and not a full time worker. Your priority is to concentrate on your studies. If you don't let yourself out of all this, you'll be worrying more about paying your phone bills rather than your studies.

Right now the most important issue is to get your money back from him. Tell him that you are in a tight spot regarding paying your bills and all and you need some cash. You ask for your money. If he is so BROTHERLIKE, he will understand it. If he doesn't return then you just forget about your money for ever.

In future, please refuse to take monetary favors from him because I think he always offers you things that you don't even need. What's the point of accepting such things unnecessarily?As long as you keep accepting these tid-bits from him he will have a full right to DEMAND favors from you.

I'm sure you are not someone who'd want to get used to this extravagant lifestyle. You can manage your living on less expenditure. You wouldn't want to be around with people who are using you for their personal ends.Try finding a new friend circle for yourself where you can study as well as have fun in a balanced way.

It is said, RICH PERSON IS NOT THE ONE WHO HAS MOST ; BUT THE ONE WHO NEEDS THE LEAST.

I'll close here with a verse written in the Bible. It says, "THE ONE WHO GIVES GIFTS TO THE RICH WILL BE POOR."

Answer 10

give him a hug!

Answer 11

you will never see the money.. figure it as a lesson leanred and move on.. the guy is a predator.. dont see him either..