Good advice needed M or F...to get over my partners ex's...?

Question

Ok here's the deal..

I keep thinking i have stopped thinking about my partner and his old ex girl friends. Like they are from 4 years ago but i have recently found out guys remember everything about shaggin their ex's so now it's on my mind 24/7.

What they did, How i'll never out do all of them and that...I even question things he now says cos he lied about some things after i asked him about them and them told me what really happened. I feel sick and revolted and My happy family is suffering immensely.

I need proper advice on how others have delt with this in the past cos who hasn't had a partner with ex sexual partners... Well thanks heaps. : )

Answer 1

Take control of your life, it is the only one you have.  Do not regret that you don't have a ton of experience in bed with other guys or worry about whatever experiences he has had in his past.  Getting jealous is the best way to drive him away.

If you are sure that you are not just another notch in a player's scorecard and that he wants a serious adult relationship with you, then start getting serious and leave all of the childish games and insecurities behind.

You need to be talking with him at every opportunity, discovering what interests the two of you have in common (other than s*x).  If you have next to nothing in common, then it is a poor match no matter how you feel about him.  The more things you can share, the better the relationship.

Let him know first off that if he is not going to be honest with you that you are going to lose interest in a hurry.  Learn how to express your thought and feeling to him and discover how to help him express his to you.  If this works correctly, you both will be so into each other that you will forget to worry about his past.