Good age? Ten easy points...?

Question

I'm 19, I have been in an amazing relationship with a great guy for the past five years. Is it weird for me/us to start thinking about having a baby? We do plan on getting married first...I just want some unbiased, honest opinions. If you think it is too young, what, in your opinion, is a good age? Thanks for your input!

Answer 1

I am sorry but you can t even drink yet so why the heck would you want a baby... live life 1st enjoy being able to vote. get a real job making over 40k( and to be truthful that not a lot of money), travel I am sure u have not been out the US to many times... maybe finish collage or trade school something to better your life. I am 25 and I will be having my 1st child in 5 weeks and I have a wonderful job and have done all the above so I went for it. Just because you love your boyfriend now you may not later !!!

Answer 2

No. I think its fine. I kind of understand you. You truly love him... And you want to create something beautiful that you both created together... Yeah. I think its definitely normal, unless it's been about a month or something, but it hasn't its been 5 years. This is my honest opinions. And good luck<3  

Answer 3

I think 19 is normal to start thinking about things like these. Like you said, you'll get married before having a baby, so I'm sure it'll probably be another 2 years at least until you have a baby. 21 is a good age. I always want my future kids to have a "young mother," but that's just my opinion. :)

Answer 4

im not sure there is a right age...i had my first at 19....i finished school and got married at 21 and had my second at 23....i wish i wouldve waited until i finished school and got married FIRST but things happen. you can only do what you feel is right...my suggestion to you is to wait and live your life, have fun. having children is a blessing but you should be prepared for whats to come....you have been in a relationship a long time but a lot changes from when youre 14 to 19....i dont know what your goals are..if you want to go to school or get a career going but you shouldnt rush into being a mother and a wife...its hard...hope i helped good luck

Answer 5

I will be 20 in November, I have been married for almost 2 years(anniversay also in november, on the 27th) and my hubby and I are TTC.  I HIGHLY recommend getting married first, and living together (if you don't already) because you really need to have a first hand experience at what it is like to live with someone before marriage.

Hubby and I have also been together for just under 5 years.

Answer 6

having a family is not based on ur age,its based on the financial status mainly.

well yeah if ur really happy together (and wow 5years and ur only 19 cool ;) )

as i was saying :P ....if ur happy together,maybe get married but that is a big step,but finish school and be supported financially once the baby is born and that would be like a FAB life for all of you

-married young and in love

-finished school

-financially secure

-and a loving family

what else could u want?

xoxo hope i helped :)

Answer 7

I'd honestly say that 19 is a little to young to have a baby. I'd wait a couple more years maybe until 22 or older(I'm 25 and 28 weeks pregnant with my first). That way you can make sure you can provide a secure life for you and your family. There's just so much still to learn at 19, I find that I still have much to learn at 25.

Answer 8

The only reason it's not a good age, is that this is clearly the only real relationship you've ever been in and you have never experienced most of what life has to offer. I would recommend becoming an older, wiser, more experienced person before you commit the rest of your life to having children with this person. It's not "weird" that you're thinking this way, but it's not wise or mature either. Let both of you grow up a bit more and learn a bit more about the world before you make two of the biggest commitments a person can make.

Answer 9

i think its fine when u r in a healthy relationship, that is when u r married...19 is not bad of an age ....but i would say to get married first!!!

Answer 10

I don't think it's young to start thinking/planning, but maybe a bit young to be settled and start trying.  It's good to think about these things and discuss them way ahead of time.  My husband and I started talking about marriage when I was 18 and babies when I was 20, but we didn't get married until I was 22 and conceive until I was 27.  We took our time.  It's never to early to start the dialogue, though.

Answer 11

K, I am 20 and asked this question a few days ago and got some of the rudest, inconsiderate comments I've seen.  I think that people forget that while we may be young, we have hopes and dreams too.  And if motherhood is one of them is that such a bad thing?  I would definetly say get married first and make sure you both have jobs and a place to stay other than family just because it shows YOURSELVES that you are willing to make sacrifices for each other.  If you would have asked me 5 years ago if 19 was too young to have a baby, I would've said yes but now that I'm older and wanting to be a Mom, it changes my perspective.  If you are willing to put your baby first and do WHATEVER it takes to provide for it, then yes, I think you are fine to have a baby.

To answer your question on what is a good age... I don't think that's an easy answer anymore.  It will be easier to get pregnant at this age than at 30 and you will be a more energetic parent...

So good luck, and ignore any rude comments you may get!  

Answer 12

I don't think it's weird for you to start thinking about having a baby. I started thinking about it at your age, too. But I knew that I wasn't emotionally, physically, mentally, or financially ready to handle a child.

I would definately recommend getting married first and waiting a couple of years but it's totally natural to want a child when you're with a man you love and are happy and of child-bearing age.

I think between 23-25 is a good age to have your first child. At that age, you should be done with school, have a stable job with health insurance, and be able to support yourself financially (and a child).

Congrats on being in a relationship for so long and for being so responsible!! :)