Good aspects of adoption?

Question

Alright, let's hear it.

I have a good family, the best older brother anyone could want (We used to play games all the time while he was still living at home) and I have the chance for a good education.

I'm very happy that my parents allowed me to study Mandarin and explore my heritage. That means a lot to me as a TRA. I'm also really glad I got them as parents because they fully supported me when I wanted to search.

They gave me a good childhood and took care of me and loved me for who I was.

So yes - they will always be "real parents" to me.

So I ask you: what were the good aspects of your adoption?

Answer 1

adopt an american

Answer 2

Well let's see:

My amom was an amazing, beautiful, funny woman who loved life and lived it fully.  She instilled in me a love of travel, taught me to never compromise, to always stand up for what I believe in.

My adad was more on the quiet side (not so much during his younger years I hear), believed in honesty and integrity, he worked hard to provide for his family.

I had an extended family of stout, quirky Germans.  All my great-uncles (9 of them) were as different as night and day, they farmed just up the road from here.  My great-aunt taught me my love of gardening.  

My two older brothers and I didn't always get along when we were kids.  But we came together the year my middle brother lost his eyesight and half his brain in an accident, two months later our adad died of his 4th heart attack, 8 months after that I cared for my amom as she died from cancer.

All that's left are the 3 of us, lots of great memories, we like to laugh now about the times when we were kids and wonder what "mom would say" or what "dad would do" if they were alive today.

I had a wonderful life, that's not to say that I would have had a bad life if I hadn't been adopted, not at all.

Great question, thanks for asking it.

Answer 3

A star for sharing your aspect.

As an orphan without adoption.

I never had aspects, you now have memory's of.

It is better to have loved and lost.

Than to have been, "never" loved at all. <{:-})

Answer 4

I have a wonderful family, I guess that is because of adoption. It doesn't seem like it, it just seems like I'm a person with a great family who happens to have been adopted.

I think the best thing about my adoption is that it put me in a unique position to be a mother through adoption. I don't think I'm any more capable of it than a person who was genetically linked to their parents but it does help people understand first choice adoption and think of it as something that doesn't have to be a fall back for the infertile.  

Answer 5

As I am trying to adopt but wasn't adopted myself, I would like to say...

This is a great question for someone in my shoes to hear the good and the bad!

Thanks Mei Ling

Wow - a thumbs down for wanting to hear answers that someone else wants to as well...who did I pi$$ off today?

Answer 6

my real mother didn't want me so she gave me to my grandpa and went on living he pathetic life and i have a really good life with my grandparents.

i was 3 weeks old when my grandpa started taking care of me so like you said... my grandparents are like my parents and i wouldn't ever see them any other way. i am glad that i was adopted because if i wasn't then i would live the same pathetic life as my real mom.

Answer 7

Thanks SO much for sharing the good about adoption.  We hear so much bad things here that is very refreshing. (this is not to negate those who have bad experiences however).

I am very thankful that 50 years ago, my birth mom decided that my life was important enough that I was given life.  I know that abortion was not legal then, but it was around.   My birth mom  wrote a letter to my adoptive parents (who by the way, are my real mom and dad)- that the reason she was placing me for adoption was because she loved me. I love both of my parents-  (unfortunately my dad passed away over 25 years ago.  MY mom is wonderful, and I thank God every day for them. I also thank God for my birth mom as well.  

My husband and I have been married 27 years on Friday, and 20 years ago this month we met the birth mom of our son.  He was born in Dec 1988. Then in January of 1991 we met the birth mom of our daughter, who was born in Feb of that year. My wonderful experience as an adopted child, made it very easy for me to adopt our 2 precious children. Our 2 children were loved by their birth mothers as well. Most of their families encouraged them to abort.  They chose life, and because of that my husband and I could be "real" parents too.

Answer 8

I had a close relationship with my amom.  She made sure that I got a good education, lots of care and attention and that I always knew she loved me as much as she loved by brother (he was hers biologically.)  She passed away a little over 3 years ago and I miss her greatly.  Like Lillie, I have a lot of good memories of my mother.  

Answer 9

Mei- Ling what a nice post. Thanks.