Good children's book about adoption?

Question

I know there are books out there for the adopted children, but I need to find one that will help my daughter adjust to the loss of her baby sis whom I just placed for adoption a few days ago. Are there any books that help explain things to a 3 1/2 yr old? She knew I was pregnant and I have tried to explain that her sissy lives with someone else now, but she refuses to believe it. I was hoping there was a book on the subject made for her age that might explain things a little more thoroughly. Anyone know of any such books if they exist?

Answer 1

Ok this book is to explain adoption to the adopted child but maybe it could be used to help your daughter.

  "The Chosen Baby"  by: Valentina P. Wasson

It is a classic so you should find it at your local library!

Love is the answer,  Pandora

Answer 2

A realy good one I read is on bedtimestory.com. I think it's called "Billy's New Family". :)

Answer 3

I do wish there were children's books written specifically for situations such as yours.  We adopted our children at birth and they have biological siblings that the birthmother is parenting.  Her oldest did have some issues.

I do have a book that I bought for our children entitled "A Blessing from Above."  It's a Little Golden Book about a kangaroo that longed for a child.  One day a mama bluebird's eggs hatched and there was not enough room in the nest for all of the birds and one fell out of the next.  Momma-Roo caught the baby bird and raised it as her own.

Here's a link to the book:

http://www.amazon.com/Blessing-Above-Lit...

While reading this to my children, I've often thought about the other baby birds that the mama bird raised and how her situation is like that of our children's birthmom.

This book may help your daughter understand that even though you placed her sister for adoption, that does not mean that you have to or will place her as well.

I wish you the best and your family the best!

Answer 4

No, I don't but for what it's worth....I am very, very proud of you, and your decision.

Your little girl will understand one day that you did the best thing for all of you.

Best of luck to you.

hugs.

Answer 5

I haven't seen any books on that "side" of adoption. There certianly should be some. Your child definitely deserves to be able to understnad what's going on. She has legitimate concerns and it is defintiely wise of you to try and explain things to her. She needs to know that she will never be "given away." She needs to have some answers that make sense to her. I know you are looking, please continue to look for info until you find some! You could "write" one yourself, and read it to your child. A simple story. Your child may need to read it over and over. Make the story fit your situation but, not to a tee. Let her ask questions and come up with alernative answers. Let her explore how she thkns and feels about what's going on. You could even have it set up in the story that many women are pregnant, and they all get to bring home babies but, not this one family -- they are "giving" their baby to a family that wants a baby very badly but can't have one. Your daughter probably wants "her" baby very badly. It is a wondrful thing that you know your baby will be better off being adopted by another family, and a very difficult and noble thing to do. You must be a very wise and remarkable person. You and your daughter could also go to a counselor together becasue you must need your own support as well is dealing with your own story of this. But, find someone who knows about this issue, and someone you like.

Answer 6

Jamie Lee Curtis wrote a great children's book. I think it's called "Tell me again about the night I Was Born".

I have a similar situation. When my child was very young (2 1/2), but old enough to talk, he/she relayed that my ex said I was going to give him/her away because I had given my first child to some other people. It was horrible. I went and got the few pictures I had of my first child and had them made into 5 X 7 photos, framed them, and put one eye level in every room so my child could see them. I wanted to remove the mystery. No shame. Nothing to hide.

Then I told my child that before he/she was born, Heavenly Father asked me to have a child, give it to a family. If I would do this, he would give me the most precious gift of all... my child.

Over the years my child has asked a few more questions about the first one, but doesn't feel bad. I've let him know that it was a hard thing to do, but I knew it I was doing it for Heavenly Father and he promised me a very special child of my own to keep forever and ever and ever. My child feels very special about what I went through to get him/her. I've told my child when he/she reaches 18 he/she can try to meet the first child.

I have had to water down what really happened.... of course. I haven't told any lies. At one point my child asked a question and I couldn't tell the truth and so I said, I'll tell you more as you get older.... there are no books on this. I hope I'm doing the right thing. I hate that my ex is so screwy that he would tell my child something like that.

I was raped. My family disowned me (they didn't know I was raped, I was too embarrassed to tell them) because they couldn't believe I had worked so hard to get a scholarship at a very prestigous college, and then  get pregnant right before I left for school. Once I got to school, I was in a freak accident which left me with a broken leg and I lost the use of both arms (which at the time was told would be permanent, but I have regained full use of them). I had no choice, but to find my first a home. It was supposed to be an "open" adoption, but as soon as the ink dried on the paper, I was told that I couldn't see her again. No more pictures, nothing. They thought it was too confusing. They were "friends".

Good luck with your book. There needs to be many written....