Good girl/Bad girl dilemma. I want to but I don't. Input anybody? ?

Question

I grew up in a christian household but stopped going to church when my husband and I married. Long story. He is very aggressive in bed and it is a turn on but my mind keeps straying to my moral upbringing of "good girls don't". I finally stopped allowing him alot of sexual things for the last couple of years but he has been trying to press the issue and I keep remembering how good it felt. How can I get past the "good girl" way of thinking? Our anniversary is tommorrow and I am trying to make up my mind. Really need advice.

Answer 1

so you cant have s*x before marriage and then you can have s*x you cant enjoy it. well thats just great.

Just keep telling yourself that what you're doing isn't wrong. You enjoy it and your husband enjoys it, your both consenting adults and what you do in the bedroom doesn't affect your relationship with God (well unless it involves animals) where's the problem there?

Answer 2

give it all up just for the pleasure for your self and him 2 if you love him and i see no problem and god wants you to reproduce after being married so go for it have fun XOXOXO GIVE IT ALL UP  

Answer 3

If it feels good to you and your husband enjoys it,, Do It,,  as long as you are married and you both consent to it how can it be a sin??

  Besides every man wants a good lady in public and a s**t in the bedroom,,  Keep it spicy and he won't stray    Good Luck

Answer 4

just become a bad girl and tell yourself that bad feels sooo good

the stuff i do in bed is stuff i keep to myself. s*x is a whole other realm. do what feels good, no matter how dirty. as long as you're two consensual adults, nothing is off limits.

try separating s*x from daily life.  in life you're a good girl. in bed, you're a bad girl.

good luck

Answer 5

It also said not to deny each other.  That your body does not belong to you but your partners'. Since you want to be technical about it.  Marriage is honorable unto all and the bed is undefiled.  That mean what ever you and your husband want to do is okay.  Short of threesomes and animals. LOL!  And how would Paul know anyway, the man didn't think anyone should get married or have s*x.

Read the Song of Solomon, that was a sexually charged book in the bible.  s*x is supoose to be fun, not boring. Don't make anyone including yourself feel ashame about pleasing your husband.  As long as the two of you are happy in your marriage who cares.  

Answer 6

He is your husband and if it is a turn on for you when it gets aggressive, then what is the issue?? That does not make you a bad girl, that just makes you a wild one in the bedroom. Believe you me, there are a lot of "good girls" out there who are probably even wilder in bed. And if it is your anniversary, heck, go wild. But for the long run I don't think it is healthy to always be aggressive in bed, so do keep an eye on it and do tell him to slow down a bit if it gets a bit rough.

Answer 7

just relax and have fun... don't put the bible into your head when you are having s*x with your husband.. that is something between him and you .. and you should do it however you enjoy  

Answer 8

Just think if what you do in bed makes you both happy there is nothing immoral it.

Answer 9

There is nothing wrong for two married people doing what ever they want. Don't ruin your marriage or your happiness by turning your back on your husband.

Answer 10

Really, he is your husband. It`s not like you`re out, getting it on with various men... so I don`t see the problem. If it felt good, and turned you on, it`s OK! I am not religious, but.. I don`t think the bible says christians have to be frigid boards in bed! I think you should allow yourself to be a "bad girl" as you say it.

Good girls don`t have s*x with many partners. Nothing says they can't enjoy it with their husband the way they want to!

Answer 11

Out of curiosity, where in the Bible does it forbid having fun s*x with your husband? Where exactly does it say that being aggressive in bed is bad?? s*x was DESIGNED for marriage, and it's supposed to be enjoyable. That was its intention, so why would God expect you to only have boring s*x? He designed your body to be able to experience pleasure, so he's certainly not expecting you to deny that within the proper context of marriage.

I've been a Christian from a very young age, and I can guarantee you that the Bible does not set limits on what kind of s*x you can have with your husband.

***In response to your additional comments - WHERE does the Bible say that??? You need to provide a reference. I don't recall having ever read anything like that, and I'm pretty familiar with the Bible.