Good mate - Sleeping with her dead husbands brother?

Question

I have put this question in another category too.

My good friend has recently (last week) burried her estranged husband who she has a 3 yr old son with. Her two children are like my nephew and neice and I feel so sorry for that little fella... Any how, now that he is dead his brother has come home to help organise his funeral and sort things out and now she is shagging him.

I cannot believe that she would do this. I see it as wrong.

And if that was my mum I would be disgusted in her, doing the wrong thing by my dad.

Come on, the man isnt cold yet and she in the sack with his brother.

Too Jerry Springer for me, specially if this turns into something and she has a child, then her sons will be cousins..... eiew

Does anyone else think this way or am I being too harsh? I havent said anything too her (apart from the Jerry comment, and we did laugh about it) and I know that she is big enough to make her own decisions, but the kids are my concern.

Please dont thumb me on this, I would just like to see what others think of this situation. Do you think the same as me, or see it differently.

Cheers

Answer 1

She needs someone,moreover she is not your mother.

Answer 2

Life is for the living.

Answer 3

i totally agree with you

aside from the fact that he's her dead husband's brother, he's not even buried yet and she's already sleeping with somebody else! the fact that it's his brother makes it a lot worse!

and btw- are you british? i love that you say "shagging" hahahaha

Answer 4

Even if he didn't die, switching relationships so fast isn't healthy for anyone.

Even if the relationship is cold and it ends, even then it's healthy to be alone for a while to let things settle down, to gain back clarity. Why? Because you cannot be total with another if you are not finished totally with past relationships.

She is kind of irresponsible and superficial from my point of view.

They were separated long before his death. Otherwise is impossible for a woman to "fall in love" so fast with another.

A relationship doesn't end when one says so or when one goes away.

And she's not aware of the impact her actions have on the mind of her children.

Imagine u r a child in this situation. What will you remember?

If you were a boy, u will expect ur wife to behave like ur mother => psychological problems.

If u were a girl u will tend to act like ur mother => psychological problems.

I'm not against relationships, but I'm against ignorance :)

Answer 5

I have to be honest, that is appauling and I agree with you and your feeling all the way.

You have to say something, you really do; and I mean that.

If you don't say anything, then nothing will change.

I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 6

probably she was too shocked.

she probably needed comfort.

don't judge her too much...

Answer 7

Well, a part of me says it's wrong and a part of me says it's not right, but just a part of who she is. Since her dead husband's brother probably looks a lot like her husband, she's using him as a substitute for her husband. Now, my other side is to say I completely agree with you that she should NOT sleep with her dead husband's brother.

Answer 8

She was estranged from her husband.  I wonder why she even went to his funeral, much less help "arrange" it.

I see you as very judgmental and immature.  The entire matter is none of your business.