Good or bad idea?

Question

i think that if i could just wish that i would not feel the need to fall in love with another person and just focus on helping others(charity, business, entrepreneur) and humans would not find the need to be with someone who could break their heart or who would cheat on them---then many would be happy, s*x would just be totally nothing.

Answer 1

You talk like someone who has just been cheated on. s*x is already nothing, if it's a strong relationship then you can work through it; we are only human; we all make mistakes- just some are stupid enough to get caught... But there are enough people who are workaholics not paying attention to their personal life and honestly I wish they would reproduce because the people that are reproducing at an alarming rate are not the best representatives of our race. I hope I'm not right on that part. But you shouldn't feel the need to fall in love

(in  that case it is easy to fall out of love as well as that being the wrong reason for loving ) what we do is just plain and simple- love we don't fall, we just do. And wishing won't make things come true. Just don't put yourself in a situation where you can get close to someone, either physically or mentally if that is what you really want. But depriving yourself of a good relationship because of one a**hole is completely unnecessary, I've had like 10 a**holes before I found the man who's children I will have. Try going for something different, for example not the bad boy that we are always drawn to, because that is what they are; bad.  Use your best judgement and you should be fine. Hope this helps!

P.S.

It is best when that other person makes you want to be a better person yourself but not in a make you feel bad if you aren't kind of way. You just want to do better at whatever you put yourself to. Good luck and keep your chin up!

Answer 2

yes thats the idea of s*x only for procreation.

there is more to life and your right.

love-is an emotion thats seems to exibit addictive qualites.

Answer 3

Touching. I hope you are sure of it. I am sum of part; There is no number in s*x, so it isnot the sum for me. I am surprised at your intelligence. Wonderful

Answer 4

Man is a social animal, and was not built to live alone, although some do, but I bet they are a lonely lot, once the charity thing is over and they are alone in their rooms.  A person to share things with, to cry with to laught with to share secrets with, is needed by us all.  Just cause we get a bad relationship does not mean, that we give up on life.  It is very good that you keep busy with work of charity or any other type so that you don't think much, but when you are finelly alone (especilly during old age, when companionship is a very important issue.)  You can't escape pain, there either, it maybe, a friend, a relative or anyone or anything else.  So falling in love ( you can't fall in love to order, it just happens even against your will, unless you become an nun and hide yourself from the males in the world.)  s*x is one of the most important parts in a relationship, as we all, from humans to animals, all are built for progeny by nature, we can't or OUR bodies will not be rules by our brains at times.  SO A BAD IDEA RUNNING AWAY FROM RELATIONSHIPS CAUSE THEY MIGHT GO WRONG.  KEEPING YOURSELF BUSY, WITH THE ABOVE IS A GOOD IDEA FOR AS LONG AS YOU DON'T GET TIRED AND GO HOME.  A PLACE CALLED HOME IS JUST A HOUSE IF THERE IS NO LAUGHTER, LOVE, AND EVEN PAIN THERE.  

HOW CAN YOU KNOW WHAT HAPPINESS IS UNLESS YOU HAVE EXPERIENCED UNHAPPINESS!

Answer 5

bad idea what's the purpose of life without love.

Answer 6

you were not designed to live in solitude, but with a companion. it's God's intention. try to live without a companion...alone... and see if you can stay sane. i strongly doubt it.

Answer 7

Sexuality and human companionship are two very strong drives for humanity. Yes, it would be nice if we never had to worry about adultery, jealousy, etc. But the fact is we do. And if we didn't, what would be the point to getting married? You're generally supposed to marry someone because you're in love. Or at least that's how it's presented to society.

Look, love, broken hearts, s*x, and everything that comes with it spur passionate emotions in people, and passion is what drives the human race. A lot of things would never get done if someone did not have the passion to do it. Some of the most beautiful art, literature, and poetry have been created because of love and passion. Even philosophy can be born of passion. Kierkegaard was so overwhelmed by his own perceived inadequacy that he broke off his engagement to a girl he cared for and subsequently wrote wonderful philosophical treatises.

In closing, the world would be a very bland place without the ability to be in love.

Answer 8

Ok, first of all from the things you wrote I conclude that in your past you were somehow hurt by someone you loved. By renouncing love for another human being you are giving up on something that brings out the best in us. You are somewhat incoherent in your statements that you want to help others yet you want nothing back from them. How can you give others love (which could be another name for charity) if you don't receive love in return. And you bring up the idea of s*x which you mistakingly call "nothing" if love is eliminated. Somehow love and s*x go thogether. We are not savages, mind and body go together, therefore you can not separte feeling from the physical. Otherwise we would just go around having s*x with everybody. I will give you a good remedy for your problem. Suck it up, put your askewed ideas of love aside and all of the bad things that happened in your past. Stop being the victim!!! Remember if you eliminate love for another person, you must also eliminate love for your friends, family, and the most important love, self-love (the love of yourself.) If you give up self-love.you lose self-respect and your humanity. You can't simply eliminate one concept of love (romantic love) without damaging the whole idea of love.

Answer 9

s*x is a beautiful, experience...Why should we want it to be nothing? Not, all relationships work out but when 2 people are really connected...It is a truly amazing thing. How could we judge our happiness, if we weren't the opposite of happy sometimes.

Answer 10

I think the need for human companionship is natural and too needed, without it, people wouldn't survive. There are some exeptions, though.

Answer 11

there's nothing wrong with love....it is the people p***e ....it is the people who is breaking your heart and not the love itself.....since you are here because of love.... the reason you feel it.... just justify who you are inside....and what you really are deep down...what we can do then is try to give space for our healings....and restart again...and built...and honed....nothing more sweeter than the second time....a chance of a life time.....

Answer 12

might love be a source of all that is wrong with the world.

love of one.

love of country.

love of religion.

love of food.

love of drink.

love of s*x.

love of a political ideology.

Answer 13

I think s*x is an insurmountable instinct...... it needs to be satisfied...... however, it should treated at par with hunger and thirst which can not be neglected, but never should be glorified.... humans are committing the blunder of assigning too much importance to s*x in the most unnatural way.

Companionship too is inevitably necessary to keep our mind in proper shape and that is what is meant by claiming that we are social beings. Companionship is at its best when both physical and mental needs get mutually complemented.

The above two factors have led to the wonderful institution of marriage between a man and a woman...... how sad our own follies are ruining such a great institution that we were so very clever to create in the first place!!

Answer 14

well the problem with that theory is instead of one person breaking your heart, you leave yourself open for humanity as a whole to devistate you, yes cheating happens but i feel that a person can recover from a busted relationship better that one could recover from losing hope in humanity if bad stuff happened.

Answer 15

Bad idea for me, that kind of lifestyle would totally bore me to sleep.