Good parents or bad parents?

Question

are you a bad parent if you spank?and why you answered yes or no

Answer 1

Depends how hard and where and how old they are stop spanking at about 10 because they should no better start grounding them take away video games cell phones ipods ect ect . and when there young spank them on the but to tell them that they did something wrong. but never on face and never to hard.

Answer 2

Spanking or not spanking doesn't make you a good or bad parent, not disciplining your child at all does.

Answer 3

no, my parents spanked me and they are great parents. I have to admit, i too have spanked on occasion, though it is not my choice of punishment. taking away privileges is much worse to a child.

Answer 4

I've never felt the need to spank any of my children.  I would consider myself extremly bad if I did spanked my kids, simply because there is no need for me to be physcially violent towards my children.

Answer 5

I had to spank my oldest son when he was younger..sounds strange but I tried time out and taking away a favorite toy but, to my surprise, he told me one day it did not matter because he would get to come out of time out anyway..so, spanking was the only thing that worked for him..hope this helps

Answer 6

If you want a spoiled brat for a kid don't spank him. If you want a good natured kid then spank them with your hand on their bare butt, and over your knee. I had that when I was younger and it helped me out. When they're in 3 grade then they're too old.

But when you're like my aunt (she takes a wooden board with holes in it and spanks them for no reason and says "this hurts me more then you") then it's too far. Her kids are over 20 years old, the youngest one is 18. They still live at home 2 of them survived (one is a roofing buisness oner and the other one is helping him) The owner of the buisness gets hives and a lump on his head that gets bigger the longer she's around him the reason why is because he's so pissed at her that she kept him in "isolation" from the world because she thought it was evil even the TV. There's one cousin that is going insane. If the ones that "survived" came to their house the ones that are still living there have to go in their bed rooms until they leave or they have to beg the brothers to come back and live with them so they can see them all the time. Just to let you know there is no meat in the house it's strictly dandoline greens and what ever else is non-meat. That's why the ones that got out are over 6' tall.

No one knows how or why she got so wacked out and the husband is too scared to turn her in. It's like he's brainwashed like the kids.

what ever money they made would go straight to the house, they wouldn't see a penny of it.

Supposidly I don't know this.

Hope this helps,

Would rather be deer hunting

Answer 7

No I don't think you're a bad parent if you spank.  My reasoning is because there are different ways of spanking.  

1. Parents can spank as a sign of frustration with the child, therefore, out of anger.

2. Parents can spank as a form of punishment only, and not use it when they are emotionally frustrated with the child.

When parents spank out of frustration, I think that is bad parenting because they are taking their anger out on the child.  Typically, these parents are angry and irrational.   Also, these parents usually do not explain to the child what they did was wrong and discuss a better behavior for the child.

When parents spank for punishment only, they do not show anger or frustration to the child.  Then, after they spank the child, they sit down with the child and explain why they spanked and what the child did wrong/how to behave better.  

Spanking is not always a form of beating, although many Americans believe it is.  Parents can use spanking as a functional way of punishment, WHEN USED RIGHT.  The parent must not spank out of natural reflex of being mad at the child.  That's a must.

Answer 8

You are not a bad parent if you spank, there is no doubt about why, it's not done in anger and the reason is to punish clearly bad behavior. You ARE a bad parent if you cause wounds or leave marks other than redness, or are acting out due to your own anger or other imbalance. Why? Because spanking is sometimes the only way to modify behavior.

Answer 9

No. With some kids all the talking and times outs don't work. Along with removal of tv, toys, special privileges. Some kids just don't care.

As a parent you should not be expected to keep your kids distracted 24/7 just to keep them out of trouble. We had to go off and entertain ourselves for hours when we were little and were expected not to get in trouble, so why can't our kids do the same.

I do feel that when a child gets to a certain age, no older than 10, they should have other important things that can be taken away instead of using spanking. I see it as a way to get a child's attention when they are out of control. It lets them know that you are serious.