Got any advice for a girl feeling crushed by society's cruel expectations?

Question

I see them strut through life

As though every sidewalk and ever hallway were a runway showcasing

Their exquisite complexion

Their flawless skin

Their seductive eyes

Their juicy lips

Their perfect figures

Their sassy smiles

Their silky hair

Their undeniable beauty

Turning heads, drawing gazes

I HATE THEM!

From complaining how "fat" they are

For stealing attention

For making girls like me feel as though we could never measure up

We can never be beautiful

And yet I ache to be one of them!

I want their elegance!

I want their captivating appearance!

I want to be the one who with one glance can stop a heart and stall a thought

I want to be like them

But wanting is wasting

And wishing is throwing away time

Wishes don't come true by themselves, we have to make them come true. Do you have any advice to help me when I get in a funk like this? When I feel like c**p because I don't measure up to what society says I need to be? Any suggestions on how I can make my wish come true? On what I can do to become beautiful like them?

Answer 1

i would tell you to get the f over it and start understanding that EVERYONE IS NOT THE SAME. seriously, i hate that people say the media gives them a negative self image. YOU DO IT TO YOURSELF

Answer 2

okay. well everybody has smart logical answers. me? not so much. Sure those models are really air-brushed photo-shopped and have a tonne of make up on. But they are still really pretty.

Heres another way to think about it.

Count up all the people you have a crush on, think are cute or hot.

Theres that many people in this world who think you are cute, hot or have a crush on you.

AND not to mention... Just cuz they are pretty dosent mean they are nice or real. Plus they probably get creepy love letters saying how hot they are and how the sender wants to sniff their neck or something. Ew.

and if you ever feel ugly, think about that guy doofy from scary movie 1. Be glad you dont look like that. Or go over old school photos, there is always a person usually a boy who makes you think 'ew. put it away'.

dont forget. Trying to be someone else. Its stupid. And in the end the only one that gets hurt is you. Cheesy but true.

And please dont do what i did and actually live on one and a half meals for two years cuz i got called fat. It sucks.

SMILE!

Answer 3

Well, from reading what you wrote right there, it seems you want some attention.

Change your hairstyle, make a new outfit. Change your wardrobe, etc. To be very honest, your not being crushed, your letting yourself be crushed...er...yeah something like that lol. Don't allow that to happen.

You don't have to be just like them. You can try, anyone can try, but most cannot. So what? Just ignore them like most do.

But if you really want those things, and you can't get 'em...well, that's life.

-Kob

Answer 4

1st of all remember that every pic u see of some supermodel is probs airbrushed and photoshopped and half of them look like **** in real life.

and also u need to stop comparing urself to them.

every beautiful girl is gonna hav someone out there who thinks theyre ugly

and every ugly girl is gonna have someone out there who thinks theyre beautiful

Answer 5

oh my gosh! i feel the same way as you!!! but what i really hate is how they always complain about how they look and how its not always good enough when they are clearly pretty! but you are already beautiful for who you are and its not the outside that matters (but it always feels better if we at least look good) but the inside that matters. The expensive makeup and the designer clothing isn't what makes us. we make who we are and you can make yourself feel beautiful.  

Answer 6

I am skeptical of advice on an issue like this that comes from a chick calling themselves s**y Vampiress! She obviously has no sense of sympathy or compassion.

I feel so much for you chica, because I am certainly NOT one of the women in the poem you're talking about. And yeah, sometimes I wish I was. But the bottom line is that I have to get by in life by doing what makes me happy. Part of that is being/getting healthy(ier) and thus working out/drinking a lot of water/cutting out refined sugars/bleached flour/caffeine/preservatives. But part of that is learning to enjoy the body/face/existence I have. Personally, I love having outrageous colored hair. That is one way I can look in the mirror every day and smile. I love changing people's perceptions of what they'd expect from a 'blue-haired punk' and smiling and waving to little girls who look at me wide-eyed and giggle. Try and find something like that for yourself.

To make myself happy, I have to constantly be working to purify myself, cleansing my body, eating well, doing yoga (and as a result hopefully toning my body and bettering my skin) at the same time as making sure I'm responsible for my own happiness (dying my hair, rocking out to good music, spending time with friends I love).

In the end- eff them all. You have to live with yourself at the end of the day, so work on making yourself feel happy. It's hard to discount them and their opinons without entirely cutting yourself off, but the day you can go outside with your head held high, not caring what they think... feels amazing.

You go girl. Best wishes. Best luck. And lots of love.

(And on days when I'm feeling a little bitter I remember that some day they'll hit menopause and the diet soda and half-meals they eat will hit them hard and they'll end up looking just like their mothers as well as feeling miserable about it, unable to age gracefully or love themselves unconditionally.)