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I want serious answers only!!! if you wanna be a smart a$$ then don't bother answering.

I meet this guy a little over a year ago. We started dating in March of this year. And were getting married in April... we both love each other more than either one of us can even began to put into words. And we've been through a hard year, we lost a our first child in may at 5wks, but we've stuck through it. I know I can count on him through thick and thin. And Im not getting cold feet or anything, I can't wait for us to share our lives together.

But how do you know if you good enough for your partner? How do you know if they could do better than you?

Answer 1

You seem to have some problems thinking things through.

People have ups and downs in their life.  EVERYONE has ups and downs.  Some years are horrible, some are wonderful, some are just OK.  I think every time you start thinking that he might have done better, ask yourself if anyone could love him more than you, if anyone can treat him better than you.

The answer is no.  He loves you, he picked you to marry.

Answer 2

You let your partner decide if you are good enough for him. You let him decide if he could do better. It is his choice, not yours. If he chooses to be with you then don't question yourself.  

Answer 3

The crazy thing is you dont know!  You just do your best and try to be strong for each other and commit to each other competely by standing by each other in tough times.  

Answer 4

You don't know that. No one ever will. It sounds like you have a real shot at happiness together don't blow it with insecurity. Your partner can chose for himself if he could do better. That is his job and you should let him decide that himself.

Answer 5

He wouldnt want to spend his life with you if you weren't good enough hun.  

Answer 6

no one is"good enough" they must just be willing to go through the B.S.  called married life.

Answer 7

In all honesty, I think the questions you really need to be asking yourself here are where is my low self esteem coming from? Why do I feel I am sometimes not good enough for my partner? You see, I believe that you aren't feeling confident enough in yourself if you are having to question if you are good enough.

The fact that he "chooses you" shows that you are good enough for him. He wouldn't be with you if he felt you didn't measure up. So you can be rest assured that you are his equal.

I would suggest that you really work on what is making you question these things about yourself. Work on bringing your self confidence up so that you won't have to wonder anymore.

Good luck! I hope you two have a beautiful and happy future together!

Answer 8

Well, you just have to trust that part. Everyone has great qualities, but not everyone is compatible. My husband could find a woman who is more int rested in his love of politics, but never one who he could get along better with. It is not a matter of being good enough or not, it is a matter of sharing a good life together and being happy doing that.

You sound like you have been through lot together, and helped each other through, your good enough, your probably better than good enough.

Congrats on the marriage and I am so sorry for your loss.

Answer 9

You've have got it backwards my dear. You are not ready to marry until you are more concerned with whetther or not he is good enough for YOU.