Let me start from scratch here,
i am very distant from my mother,but my wifes mother lives 2 miles away from my family's house.
i have attempted to be a better adult in these past 13 years,
so when ever we visit the area (over 100 miles from us)we make a visit to my psycho mothers place.
the house is INFESTED with roaches,tons of cats that do there thing in a single uncleaned box,it smells to high heaven in the house.
always another stray dog,cat goat or what have you there.
there are 5 adults(3 on drugs) and 6 children living in the house.
my mother pitched a fit that she never gets to see my kids and that there other grandmother always does,but the other grandmother is willing to drive to us from the desert to the beach to visit.
my mother asked if my kids wanted to come up for a vacation week this summer,as much as i was against it,i ran it by my boys.
both said yes,but not together.
my baby(9)was first,he called home daily to tell us how bad it was and that the roaches were EVERYWHERE !"FEAR FACTORISH"
i picked him up after only 4 days and brought him home.
then i suggested to my wife that she take a vacation to her mothers week with the boys so that the visits could be supervised,and the boys could come to her at night rather then being up ALL night.
this allowed all of us a chance to get away.
it worked great.
then 2 weeks later,
my oldest asked if i would let him go back to the desert with grandma and stay with her at night and visit my mother by day while she was at work.
we agreed that was cool with us,as long as both grand mothers agreed.
calls were made and off my boy went.
he comes home in 3 days DEPRESSED,
the house stunk,the kids were mean,the adult were rude and my mother told him the she was not an f***ing daycare center.
i called my mother on this statement,she denied saying it,
i handed my boy (11) the phone only after i put it on speaker,
she cussed him out and then told him that his house was a filthy f***n house and he was a spoiled brat,that this is how real people live.
then hung up on him,
to the point now.
i got a bug up my butt and deleted her number and info from all of are files.
blocked her number and refused to take any mail for fear of being bit*hd out on paper.
was i wrong and did i over react ?
what would you do in this situation.
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