Grandparents Rights?

Question

My fiance's biological mom is saying she is going to try to fight us for grandparents rights since her & her husband kicked us out of their house for not giving them money we didn't have. We were in their house trying to save up money for our own house but all they did was try to get themselves back on their feet instead of trying to help us in anyway. My son is 8 months old & my fiance was adopted by his grandparents when he was 7. We also got kicked out of his real moms house because we told them the were ignorant for smoking pot in the house with our son there so we could never leave our room & that they were stupid for growing pot on the back porch. After telling them what could've happened to our son they told us they didn't care it was their house & they were going to do what they wanted in their house. There was a time that we left him with them to run out & get something & when we came back he was asleep in his swing & the whole room was full of pot smoke but after that time we never left him with them again. We've never had a paternity test done & my fiance couldn't sign the birth certificate because he didn't have a valid ID at the time. So I was wondering if she really does have any chance of getting visitation. Also we live in Indiana.

Answer 1

As always, the kid pays the price for adults acting like children.

I am so sorry to hear about so many dysfunctions in one family. I know it hurt and was nothing simple when my sons were young and I was going through similar dramas. Al-anon is what helped me find my way through it without totally destroying the lives of my children. Be it Al-anon or some other source, I strongly suggest you not try to fight your way through this mess alone. It sounds like a serious toughie. I'll be praying for you. Or sending you positive energies if "prayer" offends you.

Answer 2

I feel sorry for your son!! Sounds like nobody us qualified to raise him.

Answer 3

" We were in their house trying to save up money for our own house BUT ALL THEY DID WAS TRY TO GET THEMSELVES BACK ON THEIR FEET INSTEAD OF TRYING TO HELP US in anyway"    

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How dare they worry about their financial health and future! Those greedy jerks should have totally sacrificed everything they had to make your life easier! How dare they be more concerned about getting themselves back on their own feet! It's all about you and whats best and easiest for you.

I mean -- just because you are engaged -- just because you have a baby and are now parents yourself -- in no way means you are an adult! You are fully entitled to mooch off of them and who cares if they every get back "on their feet"

Grow up.

You are a mother now. You will be a wife. That means you are an adult. Your parents/guardians are no longer responsible for you financially. They don't owe you one dime. They do not owe you the right to mooch off them.

If you were living with them -- you should have paid them rent, utilities and helped with the food bill. You should have paid for babysitting. You are an adult. That means you have to be responsible for yourself now.

They were completely right focusing on their financial future and "getting back on their feet". They are getting older -- they have their own bills -retirement to worry about.

If you did not have the money to give them -- that's your problem not theirs.  Just because you don't have money to give the landlord - does not mean you get to live there for free.  Just because you do not have the money to pay your cell phone bill does not mean you get to continue to use the service.

If you did not have the money to give them--- get another job!

Welcome to adulthood.

Answer 4

Well sounds like honestly the whole d**n bunch of you all need to take a lesson in GROWING UP!

and you and your fiances, you don't know rather he's the childs biological father or not??

I would say you really got stuck with your pants down in that case... I don't know what the grandparents will or what they can do, but I'd suggest if they attempt to do anything you'd better be prepared to have a home where you can afford the things that a baby needs to have on a day to day basis.. I mean its all about growing up and taking respnisilbity for your own actions Actions have consqunses..

best of luck

Answer 5

At the current time, they have no legal rights to file. Your fiance is not yet legally the Father. This means that they are not Grandparents.