Grandparents and Moms (or Dads) please help with this question!?

Question

My MIL keps our 2yr old 2 xs a wk for 4-5 hours.Yesterday she made a comment to DH who told me later. At 1st it ddn't bother me becz tht's her opinion, but then i found out she said it in front of dd an I was upset. It seems small an maybe it is, but i just asked if she would refrain from saying competitive things or the likes in front of my "repeating" dd. DD had pointed out the letter A on tv and my proud MIL said "I taught her that". DH said yeah an jus shared w/her the things i teach her. Well MIL then said "yes, Mommy an GrandMommy teach her things, but GrandMommy teachers her more things than Mommy". I felt if she believed that, that was her rite, but saying it in front of my dd i did not lik. So dh called to let her no and afta heated argument she finally admitted that she believes she does teach dd more than me (Im a preg SAHM and theres no way) an i said she could never teach her more than me. SHe said dont bring dd bak an hung up. Were we wrong? I hve always thanksed MIL with cards and just saying it with her helpin out while I'm pregnant an I thank my own Mom as well. But even tho my MIL is proud of what she has taught our DD and I do think DH should not always say what I do when his Mom is gloating, I just felt she should not say things like that in front of my daughter. I was hopin even if MIL didn't agree that she would respect our wishes. Even tho MIL is a proud grandparent, I just wish she would also understand that as new parents dh and I are also proud parents too. And we r still new at this and do not know everything. Were we wrong? We didnt expect her and my FIL to say dont bring her back. Now dh is angry an is like fine. ANd jus so u no, my hubby an i share everything in case sum people say he shouldn't hav tld me. but when MIL made the comment he tld his Mom rite then an there, "No u don't, my wife teaches her more than anyone". I didn't no teachin my daughter was a competition, I was just thankful for the help, but i just didnt lik her sayin it in front of dd.

Answer 1

I'm sorry but taht didnt really make sense:(

Answer 2

Ok,  DH really should not argue with MIL over these things, instead he should just let her believe what she want but in turn let you know that he is aware of who really teaches DD the most.  Sometimes MIL's have a hard time letting go of their son's when they get married.  For some reason some MIL's think they have to be better than the wife to keep their son's affection.  It's not a bad thing to humor her as long as you and DH know who really teaches DD the most.  And really, does it matter so much that he would risk his relationship with his parents?  Obviously DH loves you very much,  but let him know its not a big deal to you. She really doesn't mean any harm, she just feels like she lost a son so she is trying to prove to him that he still needs her.  

Answer 3

good grief, don't you have anything better to ***** about????

if not you are very lucky indeed!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

ok. who or wat is dd and dh that part is confusing. im thinking dd is your 2 yr old and dh is your husband. y cant you just say my husband and daughter. its so confusing that way and wat is preg SAHM?

Answer 5

WTF is a DD and wtf is a DH!?

Answer 6

dd duh duh you make no sense whatsoever. Over kill, by the time a person reads this c**p who cares!