Great I tried and now im at square ONE...?

Question

I'll try to be brief all though it never happens -_-;.

.Theres a girl Ive been friends with for 11/16 years of my life

.Three years ago I developed feelings for her

.Last summer I distanced myself from her to hide my feelings

.I havent spoken to her since febuary

.She lives 45 mins away near my summer house

.I was at the house in july and didnt see her because :

.I was and am afraid to call her or see her for some reason

.Im scared ****less since Im going back for three days sometime this week and I dont want to not see her.

.Ive been up until 3-5 am thinking about her eachnight since april.

I just need advice...or what you would do. Or similar stories or words of encouragement. Or rationalizations or just give me a thought to stave away the regret just for tonight so I can go to bed by 2 am!

Thats the summary of my predicament right there.

And on thursday night im going back to my summer house. That gives me friday,saturday and sunday to see her. But im terrified to call her. My mom kept asking about her during the summer and I never really answered...So if I suddenly told my mom she was coming over she may ask some stuff so what I would do is go about a mile down the street to the video store and ask her to meet me there.Then we could hang around town and THEN head to my house. Again the only issue there is.

Im too afraid to call her for some reason that I dont know.

And this IS my last chance...

So here are my questions:

.What should I say when I call

.how can I work up the courage to call

.What could I possibly be afraid of cause I dont know

.Should I talk to anyone

.Should I forget about her

.Should I meet her at my house or the video store or on the road?

.WHAT SHOULD I DO IN GENERAL??????

Is what ive said before. (YOUR STILL FREE TO ANSWER THAT)

So I got up (at 11:23 am no less -_-) Said **** this. Grabbed the phone dialed the number and waited. Ring one: nothing Ring two: Nothing Ring three: nothing Ring FOUR : NOTHING.... So I left a message on the machine. But if I remember correctly it is in their BASEMENT where no one ever really goes...

That really broke the morning F this im doing it atitude

I mean tommrow ...today...if I go at it with this attitude it will work again but man now im all like bummed. I got so hyped up to hear her again and then I hear "Hi! Were not here right now so could you please leave a message and wel-beep"

Now im worried I will have an issue calling again.

Allthough I have until sunday now to call...

Answer 1

Well, hopefully it'll make it a bit easier for you to call her up again since you already gave it a go. So, whenever you try to call her again and say she picks up. Start by saying, obviously, "Hi this is [Your name]. I've tried to call you before, but it went straight to the machine." Then, she'll be shocked you contacted her and say something like, "Wow, we haven't talked in such a long time, how are you?" You then say your stuff. Well you get the point. The key here is to mention you've tried to contact her. When she asks you how you are, you should say, "Good, now that I was able to get a hold of you" then you can throw in the, i've been thinking about you a lot, but never had the courage to call you. And from there, it'll just flow, the conversation. Try to set up a date of when to meet up. But, seriously, good luck.

Answer 2

Hey, i answered your last question too, and im glad you tried to contact her. However, you cant just give up because she didnt pick up the phone. Keep trying to contact her.  

Answer 3

CHILL! ! ! ! ! If you've been friends for 11 to 16 years, where do you think she's suddenly gonna go? Maybe you should get a paper bag and breath in it in case you're hyperventilating. Answers to your questions: #1 say whatever the heck you feel like saying, you've been friends for 11/16 years, she knows you from your best times and your worst. She's heard you say your stupidest things and the smartest. She's probably had feelings for you and probably wants to slap you when you finally say you like her too just cause you took so d#$m long. #2 Pick up the phone, dial her number, and worry about courage some other time, your busy right now, you have an important phone call to make, courage can wait. Courage shmerage, just pick up the phone, just keep the F it i'm just gonna do it attitude, that'll do just fine for courage right now. #3 Sounds like you are afraid of your own D#$M shadow, you've known the girl so long you should be comfortable enough to f**t around each other #4 You are talking to someone, actually, many many people on yahoo answers, that should be enough #5 If you wanna forget about her, go ahead, but sounds like you don't so why ya askin? #6 Meet her wherever you want to meet her, ask her where she wants to meet, just be yourself, my idea of a great place might suck to you or her. A little hint though, more can happen at the house unless you're young and still live with mommy and daddy, if that is the case, the video store. Good luck, hope she feels the same for you that you feel for her. If she doesn't, it'll hurt like who knows what for a while, but it won't hurt forever, there's other fish in the sea, and this is a good learning experience. Now dial that number already.

Answer 4

So, to tell the truth, I didn't read all of that.  But I got the general idea.  You're scared to let her know how you feel and don't like the idea of being rejected.

Trust me, it's best to just tell her.  Girls love it when guys do stuff like that.  Even if she doesn't feel the same, she'll be glad to talk to you and have you back in her life.  You really need to tell her.  She's been you're friend for so long that I'm sure both of you would be glad to have each other back in your lives even if it doesn't evolve past friendship...

Answer 5

That's so sweet! I think she would really love to hear just how much you like her. You seem to like her a lot. So just tell her what you wrote; your feelings for her that developed 3 years ago and how much you've wanted to call her but you've been too nervous. When you're about to call her, pretend like you're just rehearsing again. Don't pressure yourself about it so much. Tell her how you feel. You seem like a sweet person, so just call her! If she doesn't pick up again, don't wait fot her to reply. Go to her house with a little present maybe. Then just talk to her and when you're okay with talking to her and the awkwardness is gone, TELL HER. Hope I helped. (: Good luck.

Answer 6

When you call, say "It's been a while since we've last hung out and I just want to see you and catch up"

You can work up the courage to call by imagining what you'll feel like if you don't call her. You'll feel like you lost your chance.

You may be afraid of seeing her because there is a chance she has moved on to new things.

If you have any close friends or family members you can talk to about it, you should. You could even vent to someone on Y!A if you trust them.

If she does not get back to you after you've called, you should forget her. Realize that if she can't make time for you, there is no place for her in your life.

You don't have to meet up with her at your house. First you should just talk to her and see how she is. Re-establish your connection with her before you ask to meet somewhere.

Good luck hun, hope everything works out!

Answer 7

Tell her the truth and everything will fall into place.