All right...so this past April a friend of mine from high school killed himself. We hadn't seen each other in years, but his mom is one of my best friends. In fact we met through him when I was 14. We had a falling out because he was brilliant but slacked off in school, failing classes that if he had just done the homework he would have passed with flying colors. Wasted potential is one of my biggest pet peeves.
On top of all this, I know we were interested in each other and that the last time he called me it was to ask me out, but I was too busy at the time to even think about dating anyone. This makes it really difficult for me because the popular belief is that he killed himself over his girlfriend leaving him. I am filled with so much guilt even though I know it's pointless because I keep thinking that if I hadn't blown him off, then maybe he would be alive today. Or even that if I had been a better friend, maybe I could have helped him through all this.
On top of this, my grades severely dropped at my university and my parents forced me to move to where my family had been living, leaving my home of 10 years and all my friends behind. I can't talk to anyone because my other friends didn't know him, and I can't talk to his mom because I know what I feel is nothing compared to how she feels, and my family just tells me "they can't understand."
I've never been much of a cry baby, but I find myself getting in serious downswings. I become antisocial and can't stop crying and my family gets mad at me for being upset for not talking to them about why when they already said they couldn't help me. I never think about doing harm to myself as that goes against everything I stand for, but I'm completely miserable.
What can I do? How do I move past this? How do I get rid of the moodswings?
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