Groom at Bridal shower?

Question

Is the groom expected to be present during the bridal shower? What's typical as far as the groom's involvement in the shower? Do most grooms just come for the gift portion or the whole thing?

Answer 1

grooms don't have anything to do with the shower, they just drop off the bride and then leave.  since during the shower there are games that make fun of the groom a little and lingerie presents, he would be uncomfortable being there.  

Answer 2

Most men do not attended the bridal shower or they come at the very end to say "hello" and to help load the gifts in the car

Answer 3

It all depends on how traditional you are.  Most Bridal Showers are girls only and the Groom isn't present at all.  However, at my Bridal Shower it was co-ed and a blast!  But really its all up to you or whoever is planning the shower.

Answer 4

Most grooms will not be at the bridal shower.They will go to a bar and hangout with their buddies most of the time.But if he wants,thats fine.

Answer 5

You know Miss Wildvirgin, my husband to be would not at all be interested in such girly things.  I would never ask him because I know he would come, but that he would just be doing it for me.  He would rather be with his male friends watching sports on television, or playing poker, or playing softball, or working out at the gym.  I will just tell him to enjoy the day, and meet me in the evening, when he can hold me and we can chat about our days.

Answer 6

I think showers are nicest when it's just the women! However, it's nice when the groom-to-be makes an appearance just towards the end - after lunch and gift opening- to say hi, to informally meet members of the family he hasn't met (and so they can fawn over how handsome and wonderful he is!). He can eat some cake and snacks, and help carry the gifts out.

Answer 7

The past three wedding showers I have been to - the groom brings the bride to the location and surprises her. He will tell her "we're going to lunch" or "we're going to someone's birthday party" etc.

The groom can either hang around or most just leave and do their thing for a few hours and the bride can call him when it's time for the party to end.

Some grooms like to stick around and eat and see what gifts they received.

Answer 8

The groom comes unless it's a hen shower (i.e. one thrown by and for the bride's girlfriends). His involvement is the same as the bride's - show up and open gifts, sit through games, look happy, etc.

Answer 9

Most traditional bridal showers operate on a "no boys allowed" policy, which means no groom either.  Some couples today are opting for a Jack-and-Jill shower, to which couples are invited and the activities are more co-ed, but I think making guys endure the exquisite form of torture known as the bridal shower is just too much to ask.  In my opinion, it's too much to ask of the women too, and as someone who loathes showers of all kinds, I sincerely hope nobody plans me one.  

Answer 10

While traditionally it's been a "girl's only" type of thing, I think it's a good idea to have the groom there.  The gifts you receive are ones you picked out together, so why not let him have the fun of opening gifts too?

It really depends on your man.  It's not required for him to be there, but let him decide.  Some guys want to be there while others won't be within 20 miles of one.