Grounded for something that never happened!?

Question

I was at this fair thing with my parents, and I saw this guy that I was really good friends with (just friends) when I was in Elementary school. I didn't see him for a couple of years, but we talked on msn and sometimes on the phone.

So anyways, when he saw me, he was like really happy or something because he gave me a hug, just a friendly one, for a few seconds longer than he probably should have, but my parents saw, and thought that he was my boyfriend or something, and got really mad at me. We didn't even get to talk before they walked me away.

After we got back home, they started yelling at me, and saying how they never knew I had a boyfriend, and how they thought I was having s*x and all that stuff.

Now they think that all those times I went to the mall, or hung out with my friends I was going out and having s*x or something with guys. I would never have s*x until at least a few years later!

I'm grounded from the phone, going outside, TV, and only allowed on the computer if I don't go on msn for 30 minutes a day for the rest of the summer, and after school starts, I'm not allowed to go anywhere on the weekends, or anywhere that's not school unless my parents go with me until they think they can trust me. They also made a new rule that I'm not allowed to date until im 18.

I try to explain to them everyday that it wasn't what it looked like, but they think I'm lying, and refuse to listen. What can I do to make them believe that they can trust me? I really think that they are being too extreme, and it's really stressing me out that they won't trust me.

Answer 1

Lie: Tell them you will leave the house and, live with a friend if, they dont unpunish you and,  if they don't listen to you.

Or, leave, and go live with one of your best friends...and, your parents will start to feel bad.  That way when you come back to the house your parents will apologize for everything they have done to you....and, ask for forgiveness hahahaha ;)

Answer 2

A little harsh of a punishment for HUG?????

Your stuck, your a kid and they are your parents. Suck up majorly.  

Answer 3

Your parents sound like my mom. Or at least how she used to be. I know what you're going through, I really do. I still get grounded for the smallest things. I try to explain the situation to her but she never listens. And what she doesn't realize is the more rules she makes and the more she punishes me and tells me not to do things, the more I'm going to rebel against her and do them.

I'm 17 and I've had s*x with 4 people. I drink alcohol. Quite often. I've had the same boyfriend for over a year that my mom does not know about. I see him at least 4 hours a day. She thinks we're "best friends." I smoke. Occassionally.

Explain to your parents that it was an old friend and he came up to give you a hug that you even said yourself was a few seconds too long. Tell them you thought it would be rude to push him away since you haven't seen him for so long. And also tell them that you know better than to have s*x. You don't want the consequences of that.

Answer 4

You have what I call old fashioned parents. They'll never believe you,

Honestly, you have no options.

Answer 5

Did you tell them he hugged for so long because you haven't seen each other in a couple of years?

Yikes! They are seriously over reacting and I don't know any way you can convince them if they have decided to believe what they want to believe.

You have my sympathy.

Answer 6

My parent's freak and assume about things too. Honestly, whenever I try to talk to them about something it always ends up as a huge argument. So maybe tonight you can write a letter explaining your feelings and how you feel about the situation, and how it hurts that they can't trust you. Explain to them you aren't into drugs, that you don't hang out with the wrong crowd, and you aren't even interested in having a boyfriend. Give lots of examples of things that you've been offered or certain bad situations you were in, and turned them down. If you let them know how you feel, instead of screaming at them and accusing them of hating you and never believeing you, then you most certainly won't win your case. I wrote a 2 page letter to my parents about how it hurt that they wouldn't believe me, and that it hurts my feelings when they can't trust me. Explain that you are growing up and becoming more mature and responsible, and you just want them to be able to trust you. Explain your feelings to them without accusing them. Explain the situation out in words on paper. If you take the time to write out your feelings and thoughts, it shows you put effort into the situation, and you aren't lying. They will see that if you took the time to write something like that out, then maybe they were too harsh, and realize you are telling the truth. Leave the letter somewhere they will see it, perhaps on the coffee table, under the tv remote, or on the kitchen counter. Or even clip it to the fridge. Anywhere you know your parents will see it. Make sure you don't accuse them or anything, be respectful , but explain your feelings and thoughts, and how you don't think it is fair of them to do this to you. Explain that if you wanted a boyfriend, you would come talk to them about it first, and ask for their approval.

Personally, writing a letter out explaining my side calmly and sharing my feelings and thoughts with my parents in harsh situations has helped me. All you can do is give it a shot. If they still don't believe you, just be respectful and do what you're told, and after a while they will let up.