Alright,
so heres the thing, I am 21, and in University. I go to school 1800km from home. Before school my dad and I were very close, like best friends. Ever since University he didn't call very much, I never recieved a birthday card etc. I fought with him about it, and he told me he was finding it hard to deal with so he was just pushing me away. but it improved during my second year and he made more effort to call. Now when I go home, he doesnt spend anytime with me. He is with his new gf, he leaves me with my brother (who's four) without asking, and when I get upset at the fact that we dont spend anytime together he says we do when he drives me to and from the airport and that I can't expect him to drop his life when I come home becuase I am the one who left and chose to go to school far away. When talking to my grandmother (his mom) He said that he needs to distance himself from me becuase he wants me to grow up and learn to be on my own. But the thing is, I am living on my own, away from home and I am growing but I don't think that means he shouldn't spend time with me when i am home? like he says to me, that I can't really expect to be a part of his everyday life, which I get, but when I am at home I wish to be. He also got rid of my bedroom and says if he moves in with his new girlfriend there will be no room for me. I've tried talking to him about this, but he says I am crazy and that he doesn't get why I am upset. What should I do? Am I in the wrong? Should I not be upset that we aren't as close and that he doesn't want to spend time with me?
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