Growing up without fathers?

Question

Whose fault is it that so many babies and kids are growing up without fathers?

im 17 and its sad but my dad randomly decided that he no longer wanted to be in my life. he told me never to call him again and left- well after reminding me that he doesn’t want a relationship with me.

i dont feel like its fair at all.. i deserve a father who isint abusive and cares about me! it was his choice to have me with my mom and its not fair that he just walks out! and the way he did. he didnt even say goodbye and its sad.

its like he wanted to s***w me up, hes a complete s****t.

its just not fair.

Answer 1

Right now im growning up without a father. My parents are divorced but he lives in North Carolina and I live in Pennsylvania. My dad still cares about me though. My best advice for you is to let go and don't let him s***w up your life. Sorry you have to go through this. I feel bad.

Answer 2

I feel for you! I'm growing up without a dad as well.

He lives in QLD while i'm left in VIC (Australia that is). when i was younger it was the hardest thing trying to convince myself that it wasn't because he didn't love me that he left,

it was just because he was to weak of a person to give up his addictions in order to raise his kids. I still love him and am nice to him when he makes his yearly call but he did a lot of damage and never tried to make up for it. Now my mentality is to never be weak like him but to always be strong, to succeed and be wot he could never be. I'm sorry your dad has left you, NO it isn't fair and you haven't done anything to deserve to lose him. Stay strong and remember there's always people around u who are going through a similar situation. xx

Answer 3

Oh sweet pea, I am still dealing with these same feelings. My father told me those same words not just once but many times. He has been in and out of my life since I was 10yrs old and I am now 29. Let me just say that I have learned to overcome my sadness and work with it. Work with it meaning use it to my advantage by being a better mother to my own children and lets just say I was very choosy about who their father would be.

Dint let him ruin you , you can so use that as a excuse for being a s***w up in life. But dont! Take all that pain and turn it into something good such as being a wonderful friend sister and someday a wonderful mother and wife. That's what I have done. All we can do is learn from their hurtful mistakes. I know that there are probably lots of people who love you sweet heart dont let one idiot get you down. It only takes a sperm to be a father, think of him as just that and try to move on. You will be better off this way. No one knows why these things happen, but you will be okay.