Grrrrrrrrrrrrr. i love my mother and i do respect her?

Question

In my previous question i asked why my mother is being a *****, I didnt say she was a *****, she was acting like one so people were like why you calling our mother that when i didnt i said she was acting like one. I love my mother, i cook the dinner when there is food in the house, i do the cleaning ect. I respect my mother, I never fight with her, but than people will like why you so mean to your mom. I always say yes mom, sorry mom in a polite way. and people said i had attitude problems. and they one women said i must do the shopping, First of all i dont have a car and im to young to drive, second i live in south africa and its dangerous for young girls to walk around alone, They get raped, kidnapped ect. But if i have my friend with me, i walk to the shop, so that women knows nothing about me. I was just asking why my mother was acting that way towards me, it might have been mean but she is mean to me. Why do people say the stuff above, when they dont know the whole story, they dont read the question propely, and think they know me. I asked why she was doing this not how stupid i am :( Why do people judge so quickly even if they are wrong

Answer 1

Thats problem because you dont live a modern life.

Answer 2

Um, people have to go with the story you tell them. How can they possibly know anything about you other than what you write?

Saying your mother is acting like a female dog and calling her one aren’t vastly different.

She's warning you about the worst case senario because she cares. It's something normal parents do. It has nothing to do with acting like a female dog.  

Answer 3

You are asking people to judge your mother to make yourself feel vindicated. Teenage girls and moms always have conflict if they have any relationship at all. You are trying to grow up and mom needs time to get used to the idea. Talk to her and ask why she thinks the things she does about you and your friends. Maybe, she just needs to get to know your friends better or maybe you need to pick better friends. Only you and your mom can work that out together.

Answer 4

hmmmm..I am in the U S and am not for sure if your customs are different from ours. I do not know.. are young people expected to have certain responsibilities in the home? The only answer to the one question is that we are all humans. Some are vindictive, hateful, kind, loving. I believe that you, being in the area that you are in are accustomed to being careful going to the shop because of rape and kidnapping for profit. People are cruel, that's the way it is. Just try to have a forgiving heart and realize that not everyone is on the short end of the stick. As far as your mom I didn't get to read your first post, but sounds like it was as if you were venting. I too get upset with my mom when she is being what I call tacky. But I can talk to my mom and let her know that she hurt my feelings. Hopefully one day you will be able to do the same. Stay safe, and use this time as a learning lesson to you. When you have a child of your own, remember these hurt feelings and communicate with your child.