Guess what? I'm preggers! Now what?

Question

I couldn't be more surprised. We have been very careful. Very! Don't get me wrong, I'm happy that my hubby and I have been fruitful and will soon multiply. Only one problem though, our adopted baby will be here in May. And boy is she the cutest thing ever. We already love the heck out of that kid. She'll be 6 months by then. She was born this past November. I will be about 5 months pregnant by then. How am I gonna do this?

My parents had my brothers and I back to back. In fact, I was 6 weeks old when she got pregnant with my brother under me. We're 11 months and 4 days apart. We turned out just fine. We're very close. I want to get to know my new baby (adopted)before having another one. I'd hate for her to finally get comfy with us and then the new born comes along. She'll feel so sad, I think.

Anybody else here ever dealt with this or knows some one who has? (having kids so close together and/or adopting then getting pregnant right away) Either scenario.

Answer 1

Congratulations God knows what he is doing you and your husband must be great people to be blessed like this.You guys will do great dont worry" congratulations again"

Answer 2

The same month we got our son I found out I was 10 weeks pregnant...with twins! Our twins were Born 20 days before our son's first birthday. So when they were born we had 3 kids under the age of one. As long as they are on the same schedule it's easy.  A constant and consistent schedule is what will help you keep your sanity..I also make a point to spend "special" time with each of the children through out the day. Even if it's just a few minutes with each child every couple of hours it seems to help with the jealously.

Answer 3

Well congrats you will defiantly need the help so if a relative can stay for a month or so and help you out with the kids, that would be great. If you are involved with a church or some other group some of the ladies will probably offer to make meals for you and your husband, even run to the store for you.  even neighbors don’t be ashamed to ask for help or accept it.  So if a neighbor , your close to or even friend offers to come over and watch the babies for an hour or so. While you can get some other things done or even take a nap accept it. It may be hard at times but I’m sure as they get older it will be easier. As some others have said try spending some special time  each day with each child even if it’s just 15 minutes, your husband too.

Answer 4

i think you need to talk to someone who had 4, 5 or 6 kids at once. then you will feel better.

my parents had my sister, then adopted two boys who were older, about 5 i think ,because they were told my mom could not have any more kids, then (surprise!) i was born 1 1/2 years after my sister.

so, if you kept track, that is a new born, a 1 1/2 year old and two 5 year olds in a year and a half.

you will survive. enjoy your children.

i do agree that you should get some help at first, grandmas, or hire someone. dont count on hubby, we guys are pretty much usless with babies.

Answer 5

Quick, cancel the adoption !!  (just kidding, but I've seen that happen time and time again)

My twins came along very close behind my firstborn, and they are very close in every way, it's lovely (the first year is a bit of an exhausted blur of a memory for me, but well worth it)

Answer 6

My daughter was 11 months old when we were presented with the idea of adopting my son. It was quite a suprise, probably much like you pregnancy. He was born a couple of months later. They're almost 14 months apart. I love it. They are best friends. I was worried that my daughter wouldn't understand because my belly never got big and one day her bubby came home. She's 3 and now understands that she grew in my belly and bubby grew in "******'s" belly.

They're 2&3 now and are the cutiest things ever. They think they are Dora and Diego. They pretend they're looking for animals to rescue.

When we first became open to adoption, we just though we would do foster to adopt or adopt an older child that would be the same age as sissy at time of adoption. So a newborn was a shocker but very welcome. I couldn't imagine it any other way.

Answer 7

I haven't but congrats!

How to deal with it will come to you naturally

Answer 8

I don't really know why you are stressing your self out about this. it is not good for you or your baby. Unless you are thinking about not keeping your baby which is the worst thing ever then there is only one thing you can do and that is cope with it and just remember the baby in your tummy didn't put it self there .

Answer 9

blessedly, an 11-12 month old will not really feel jealousy or sadness over the arrival of a new baby. but you will have your hands full for awhile!!!! see if grandma can stay with you for the first month or so, she will not only be helpful in caring for 2 babies, she will also have insight into raising babies so close in age!

Answer 10

The same week we found out we had been picked for adoption, we also found out i was pregnant.(I was told that I would never be able to have children).  The two girls are only six months apart.  I was busy but it was wonderful.  i used schedules once the younger one was old enough.  They had different morning naptimes, so each one got alone time with mama.  Afternoons we all napped together!  Get a egg timer.  I would spend 15 mins with one kid reading books to her and when the timer went off it was the other girls time.  The timer eliminated alot of little tifs over toys and anything else you could think of.  It will be the busiest and most wonderful time of your life.  You'll do wonderful.  Good luck to you and your family!

I thought we were bad 3 kids in 23 months.  Hats off to you Janna!  Wow and Attorney!

Answer 11

lol Yeppers. I know 2 couples that were in the midst of adopting b/c they couldn't conceive. And lo-and-behold right before the adoption was finalized, they found out they were preggers! But ya know what? You're a mommie. And you'll find a way to make it work. Mommies always do. Yes, it'll be hard. But you'll so absolutely love having two babies in the house, and the joy they'll bring. And believe me, you'll learn that there is absolutely no difference in the love that you give to your birth child, and the love you give to your adopted child.

Answer 12

I think you should make an adoption plan for your unplanned for pregnancy. It's a very loving option and a great gift to give to a loving wonderful family.

You already have plans to take a baby in May, find some good adopters for the one you didn't plan on.

Answer 13

We adopted a beautiful girl who was 6 months when we got her.  Then two weeks later we found out we were pregnant.  REALLY PREGNANT....with Quadruplets!!!  We also had an adopted son who was 3, and a biological child who was one.

Now we have a 14, 12, 11, 10,10, 10, 10 year olds. They love each other and get along (normal spats of course).  It's really nice to see how protective they are of one another and how much they love playing with one another.  They do really well.

So don't worry about it....it's not really any different than having twins.