Guilt based reward and punishment for children?

Question

I close to some family whose telling their 9 year old child that the parents are fighting/quarreling (mostly over issues unrelated to their children) because the child didn't do well (academically) in school. It was quite effective. And the child did perform better in school. (but i don't know if they kept on fighting/quarreling afterwards)

Is this good parenting? If not, what are the alternatives to motivate your child to perform well in school?

Answer 1

Abuse is never the answer to anything.

Answer 2

Seriously!  No that is not good parenting!  Leads to, "Sorry Son, Mommy and Daddy are getting a divorce"  Kid thinks, I should have gotten As and gone out for sports!  Setting him up for serious issues later.  I was just expected to have good grades, there was no question.  My husband was paid for his grades.  Some parents say they'll take the kid to their favorite restaurant or fun place.