Guy im dating is too casual about abortion?

Question

i'm in my 30s and dating a guy for a year. we have a very interesting relationship--lots of arguments but genuine attraction. there is one problem. he keeps saying that he wants to have unprotected s*x and that i should have an abortion if i get pregnant. he's not financial sound right now, between jobs, so I am careful about pregnancy. i dont want a child now either. so why is he risking pregnancy? i moved out recently because of this.

he also says negative things about women who have had abortions. this makes me wonder why he asks me to get one so casually. i think he doesn't take me seriously --am i wrong?

Answer 1

I think you should forget about this guy, he has troubles written all over.  Find someone that understands the meaning of life and loves it.  This guy doesn't seem to care about kids. Thats not good.

Answer 2

if he doesnt want a baby, then why does he want unprotected s*x? the least he could do is use protection!!

personally, i'd dump the guy

Answer 3

Sit down and have a serious talk with him. If he is actually considering abortion as a form of birth control, yet you don't want to separate from him, then you could use birth control pills or something of the sort. Best of luck to you. Do what you feel is right, but will also make you happy.

Answer 4

there are some things that are a no go for relationships and abortion as a form of birth control would be one of them. you definitely need to decide if this is a deal breaker for you but i personally think that if two adults feel they are old enough and mature enough to have s*x without protection then they have to face the consequences of those actions. abortion as a form of birth control is disgusting and selfish so i would totally give him the boot but that's just me.

Answer 5

find a new man an kick his a$$ to the curb

Answer 6

leave him- anyone that would want to create a child just to kill it seems pretty f -ed up

Answer 7

WTF and he's 30? You sure he's not really 17 acting 30?

Why don't you go on the pill?

He's more interested in how he feels during s*x.....than he is interested in your body and taking care of it.

I'd be out of there.

edit: Good on you!! You must be a strong women to stick with your beliefs and leave him! I wish you the best of luck in your search for love. Take care