Guy trouble! need some advice?

Question

I live with my boyfriend. A while back I got laid off from my job,ever since then I been looking for a job. But its very hard we live out in the desert not allot of jobs out here. He is struggling with the bills, truck payments, of course credit cards and much more. I have no credit card bills and no car payment my car is paid off. I feel so bad that their is so much weight on his shoulders.Its been 2 weeks that its been non stop with the job hunting and just today I received good news getting a job pay is good but my job is in the city. Its an hour and something minutes drive. We have been fighting allot I've been trying to avoid them since he did support me and I just want him to know that I'm great full and trust me he knows. I try and tell him that I'm thank full and I have allot of repaying to do to him. But he just seems so mad these past two weeks. I'm scared that he might get mad at me that we wont see each other that much. Also the way he was raised he wont except money from me because he said it would mean that he is less of a man. I didn't think so, he's a great man but he needs to let me help him and for him not to think like that I love him and I would do anything to see him happy and not stressed over anything.What should I do how can I help?

Answer 1

Take the job. He will get over it n im sure you will find ways to thank him that he will appreciate.

Answer 2

I agree with malone....

Answer 3

   Talk to him in honesty and love and let him know what you feel. If he say's he don't care so be it, it's more show, he care's and just don't want to let it show. Been there Done that.  

Answer 4

Ask him. He can tell you what he needs or wants from you better than any of us can. Communication is the key to making a relationship work.

Good luck.  

Answer 5

I wouldn't take the job in the city, it will probably cost more getting their everyday then you will actually make.  Have you tried making money online?  I know a lot of it is scams but if your desperate it's worth a try.  Just keep looking, 2 weeks isn't really that long you will get a job soon if you just keep trying.  Just let him know your proud of him, without being needy because that's what could be annoying him?

Answer 6

you can help by listening to him and understanding that you have different views.  That although you want to give him money, he wont take it, understand his reasons and just be there for him. Maybe suggest he get a job in the city and you could drive him in?  

Answer 7

tell him how you feel  and that you don't feel like u are doing your part and that you really need this job at least tell u guys get back on your feet see if he will at least under stand where u are come in from it does take two people that live together allot to make it in this life and there will be hard times  

Answer 8

You say, i would not think a lesser man of you because you already helped me get back on my feet, and now your in strife im here to support you, so take the money. Or something like that:D